Something has been bugging my sister for days. She’s still fretting over an issue to which she has no answer for. She wants to know the reason, but she has got no direct way to check with the person in question.

People who have survived from the suicide of a loved one may feel the deep, intense feelings associated with the unexpected death for a long time. It’s not only sadness and regret, but anger also. They desperately want to have the chance to say a final word of goodbye, to find out why their loved one chose to take such a path.

Remember the famous sitcom Ally McBeal? There was this part where Ally’s ex-boyfriend and first love died of a heart attack in the courtroom. His wife wasn’t there. Guess what she needed to know most? What did her husband said at his last breath. Ally told a white lie, and his wife was able to close that chapter and move on, with love in her heart.

What parallels can we draw from these 3 scenarios?

It’s the need for closure.

It could be as simple as why did somebody said something about you. Or a more serious issue like a traumatic childhood experience. Or the reason why a friend you cared for a lot suddenly disappear from your life altogether, without any warning.

If you are bothered by something and is seeking an answer, or if you know that you are affected by a certain event or person that, unless you sort things out, would continue to impede your own growth and development, then it’s time that you seek closure.