I’m gonna write on Fiona Xie again, because …

… of Stuart Tan!

You may have read Stuart’s recent post on Osim’s ’Unreal’ Poster Girl: Fiona Xie. Besides the obvious fact that Fiona has a great figure (which I’m dead sure is almost undisputable), it further pointed to me two keystones in a healthy relationship - Trust and Security.

Everywhere we go, our eyes are treated to a temptatious visual feast with all the sexy, super beautiful, handsome, cute blown-up poster girls and boys. These are not all. What about those real life babes and dudes parading around, many times barely brushing their shoulders with you as you pass them, with your girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/husband in tow.

Grils, when you notice your guy’s eyes doing a very quick sweep or even audaciously ogling at the next pretty thing sailing past, what is your first reaction? Do you give him a big and painful pinch to reinforce your existence? Do you instantly and “coincidentally” point out a supposingly interesting inanimate object 180 degrees away ”asking” him to see? Or do you simply join him, whet your visual appetite and admire God’s creation together?

Honestly to yourself, how many of you fall into the first 2 categories, and how many of you, very comfortably, fit into the last?

When you have this situation landing on your lap, ask yourself this - what am I thinking of, or how do I feel when his attention is not on me, but on others. At this stage, whether or not you feel threatened depends on 2 things.

One, how secure you are yourself (this is totally independent of who your partner is). Second, how much you trust your partner (this has got to depend on how trusting a person you are AND what kind of person he is)

I say you will only get upset, or feel threatened by the presence of a beautiful girl, albeit a total stranger whom your man may only get to see for that 10 seconds or so for the first and probably also the last time, because of your insecurity about yourself and the mistrust you have in your partner. You would agree with me, wouldn’t you? Because you know YOU better than I do, and you also know that I am right! Because I am a woman, and I used to feel this inside me too!

Are these going on in your little head:

“He’s attracted to her. Oh my god he likes her!”

“She’s really pretty, damn! How I wish I could be like her …”

“What’s so great about her? Ok what, it’s only the b**bs. No standard!”

“So pretty meh? Must stare till like this, meh?”

“If he don’t look at me now, he’ll be dead!”

And hey, he isn’t even flirting with her! He’s only looking. What would happen if he actually starts some harmless flirting and bantering with a good-looking woman?

Unless he actually makes a 360 degree about-turn with his gaze fixed on her and glancing wantingly at her butt as she sashays on, then he has just given you absolute, no-questions-asked and most warranted permission to kick his ass, give him a tight slap and say bye-bye to him, for that day. Afterwhich, I strongly recommend you two to openly communicate on why his roving eyes can’t seem to stay faithful.

Security and Trust are two such critical elements to a healthy relationship that it undoubtedly is worth every effort and time to clear any misunderstandings if any, so that you can enjoy the untainted lovingness with your soulmate. Isn’t this what you are looking for in a relationship?

How to be secure, and how to gain trust and be trustful? I’d like to elaborate more, but in a later post.

Does this occur only in men? Truth is, far from it! Women also have roving eyes. The only difference is (should I or should I not spill the beans here? Heck, I shall, fairness to both sexes!) we are born with this flair to look and not get caught! Yay! ;D Unless we outrightly point the cute guy out or we verbalise our admiration.

Feeling envious? Well, sometimes in life for certain things, men just don’t get it. Oops!

Take it easy guys, and breathe it down. That’s right. *wink*

 

 

 

 

P.S Photos courtesy of www.whosthatbabe.com/Fiona_Xie.html (Fiona in bikini); and

http://zap.to/fionagalaxy (Fiona eating cherry)