All along I’ve known how powerful perceptions are. In fact many times the perceived value overshadows the actual value of the thing itself. The scariest part is, perceptions are formed unconsciously. Hence when it affects how we value something, it acts almost unknowingly to the person himself.
I was reminded of this power recently over two very, very trivial incidences. Both involve food – one love of my life.
My sis and I were walking past a bakery and I casually mentioned I’d like to get some bread. Without thinking, my sis said: “The bread here isn’t nice.”
It is happening again. As I lay there, my eyes feeling sleepy and heavy, my mind is full of activities. I turn and look at my hubby deep in sleep. His face is one of contentment and enjoyment. I wish I can see how I look like now – when insomnia has hit me again.
Well, not really insomnia; maybe just facing a bit of difficulty going to sleep.
Want to guess what that is?
Could it be “You look fat / You have put on weight”? Or “You don’t look good in this colour”?
No no no! The fact that someone commented on how you look only means that they have noticed you. You are not transparent!
Therefore, I think the worst thing to tell a woman is this: “Nobody notices you anyway!”
How sad that would be, if nobody notices us.
I called AMEX to apply for the Krisflyer card so that I can get more mileage for my frequent flyer. I was transferred to one of their personal sales staff. Let’s call her Ms A. She sounded eager to close this sales, hence she said she would courier the form to me the same night at 10pm. I agreed. I thought she was being very prompt – which was a good sign for a sales personnel.
I got the form that night. That was last Thursday. She promised to follow up on me next week, which is this week. I was pretty impressed with such efficiency and good service. How wrong could I be.
It was a bright, warm and sunny day. I alighted from the bus and scanned my surroundings, looking for my destination.
It was a warm, and as such, probably sunny day and hence bright. He alighted from the bus and felt his surroundings, searching for his destination.
Our paths wouldn’t have crossed if I didn’t turn my head to look at him. He was still feeling his way, but apparently, he had came to a standstill. Moving his cane in a left right direction, he was “stuck” between two stretches of metallic seats.
The cab driver gave my mum a Japanese name – 英英美代子 (Ying Ying Mei Dai Zi)
I was befuddled. Why? I asked him.
He laughed heartily, and said, “Because she ‘eng eng bo dai ji’ ma!”
I immediately understood, and laughed so hard tears almost rolled down my cheeks.
Did you get it now?
“Eng Eng Bo Dai Ji” is Hokkien, that means “Too free with nothing to do”!
Happy National Day holiday dear friends 
TODAY held a very meaningful contest, I thought.
In celebration of Singapore’s 44th birthday, the newspaper had a photo contest that best showcased Singapore then, and now.
As I reminisced my own childhood looking at others’ from the photos submitted by our fellow Singaporeans, I had this thought: “How wonderful to be born in the 70s.”
Indeed, those who were born in the 70s have, in my opinion, the best of both worlds. We journeyed through Singapore’s progress and changes. Many of us had that luxury (now we call it luxury!) to live in a kampong, before we had a taste of how it was like to squeeze the whole family in a small pigeon-hole like flat.
This happened in our bedroom, about two weeks ago as Stuart and I were busy packing up cos we’re shifting house.
Feeling stressed up, I was looking to get some “excitement” by finding some things to start a “quarrel”.
K: Whose idea is it to sell the flat!!!???
S (stopped what he was doing, looked up and said) : You.
Me fuming a bit …
K: But you have to agree right? Why did you agree?
S: Because I love you!
“Kloudiia
I have been dating this guy for over 2 mths. we have been out over 10x and each date lasts at least 5-8hrs. some of them even over 12 hrs. 2 weeks ago, I asked him where we are heading and he said “I like you..very much in fact. but i am probably not ready to be in a relationship”. So I probed him the reason and he mentioned about his emotional baggage. So he is still in love with his ex gf who broke up 6 yrs ago. They are now both single and travel on holidays together and are “friends with benefits”.
“Kloudiia
Hi, I am only 18 but I have lost all my confidence in guys. I first started having my first relationship when I was 16 and that was my last. I never did trusted another guy after because I felt that all they were saying were flattering and all lies. My first relationship was like a breeze, it came a little too soon and gone with the wind even before anything much started. It lasted for only three months. But I was into what he said, stuffs like “I love you till the end of time and space”, ” For you are the brightest star, no other stars I therefore see.” Please help me to regain my trust and confidence in men.” - P
