You are at your best when you don’t have to be at your best. You are at your worst when you know you aren’t at your best.

Which statement resonates more with you?

Imagine this. You put on a loose and baggy t-shirt, a bermuda shorts with your hair messily tied up in a pony tail and you sit beside your husband watching TV and munching potato chips. He is wearing a totally comfortable yet slightly torn t-shirt picking his nose.

You don’t chastise each other. In fact, you feel very at ease just with your partner’s company. That is love.

Congratulations! If you are able to fart or burp loudly in front of your partner without any tinge of embarassement, it means your relationship has progressed to a mature and steady stage where you do not need to put on your best every minute you’re with him/her. You are just you.

But wait!

It’s good to be comfortable, but there’s a fine line being “snuggly cosy” and “slobbishly comfy”.

One of the secrets to a lasting relationship is to maintain the attraction. Better still, increase it if you can! And you know by being too comfortable, you are really not as attractive as when you consciously put some effort into looking good even at the comfort of home and in the embrace of your spouse.

Of course, I am not suggesting an overly-done dress-up affair, I’m merely reminding you that as much as you feel at ease with the company of your loved one, wouldn’t it be better that you still keep the sexual tension and desire active and brewing?

So it’s about keeping the balance. While we all embrace the idea that love means you accept the person as he/she is and that is to allow yourself to be just you, an overdose may just kill the mystery.

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