LOVE, Kloudiia

I had an epiphany the night before, while I was in bed at about 430am.

So I’m going to do a self-experiement. For 7 days, I am not going to complain about anything or anybody. I want to see how my life and other’s lives will be better when I don’t say or think anything negative about unpleasant people or situations that tend to upset me.

But I thought that’s not enough. Why not I learn to be grateful for it instead? For every complaint that I don’t make, I will find something to be grateful for, and express my gratitude.  

So, in the end, it’s not just a 7 days complaint-free experiment, it’s also a 7 days of gratitude. Though this really is a personal experiment, but I’ve decided to post my thoughts and encounters up here, to share with you.

So yesterday was the first day. And Day 1 happened like this:

After one house visiting session, I was in the car with a fellow coach SY and my boyfriend sitting in the back. Then I told them about this experiment of mine, and the funny thing was, I told them I couldn’t differentiate between what’s a complaint and what’s not! What if I’m actually stating a fact? So is that considered as a complaint too?

Ha ha ha! Sounds embarassing I know, but that’s what happened! So what does this tell me? That I’m a complain queen? Not really, cos I’m also adept at using reframing to turn around unhappy events.

Yesterday happened to be the time of the month for me, and my waist was aching like hell. So I used a pillow to prop my back to make myself more comfortable while in the car.

Then I told them my waist ached like hell!

K: “Is that a complain, that my waist is aching so much?” 

BF: “Yes”  

K: “But, that’s the truth! Ok, if not then what am I supposed to be grateful for then? The fact that I’m not pregnant?”

Ok, we all laughed. Then my boyfriend said

“Be grateful that you can feel”

Wow… one of those moments when I’m impressed by his words haha

K: “Ya! You’re right. I should be grateful that I can feel, even if it’s feeling ache and sore, that’s right. Ok, I’m grateful that I can feel, and I am feeling right now”

Then SY chipped in

“Why not you use the pink bubble to help your pain?”

K: “Pink bubble? What pink bubble?”

SY: “Remember, you used that for your gastric pain the other day? Why not use the same thing for this?”

K: “Oh! You read my blog! Unlike some people who don’t. (edit: the person knows who I’m referring to ha!) Oops, is that a complaint again? But I thought that’s just being sarcastic?”

BF: “Yes that’s a complaint too”

SY: “Ha ha, so do you read his blog?”

K: “Of course, that’s why I can say so loud when he didn’t haha! Ok anyway, ya ya the pink bubble. But that’s different. That’s a pink shield protecting my gastric, this one is not the same”

BF: “Then imagine a pink tablet”

K: “Ya, that’s what I took that time. A pink tablet that opens up as a shield when it went inside my body”

BF: “Then make it a green tablet this time”

SY: “Ya, use a green one. Maybe it can help”

K: “Hmm, green’s good for this. Ok can test. If not I’ll look like complaining again…”

So much for the chat in the car ride. So I’ve learnt to be grateful that I can feel. Isn’t it wonderful that we’re born with nerves that allow us to feel?

We know that life is not a bed of roses. When we taste sweetness, we have to taste bitterness too. If there’s ache, there’ll be comfort. Life comes in an entire package. You don’t tell the Universe you choose to have what you want.

No, it doesn’t work this way. You get what it gives you, and you learn how to handle them when it comes.

Even for rich people. By becoming a millionnaire, there are other problems that come associated with it, as a package. You get more issues with taxes, the worry that people are getting close to you for money, the risk that your business will fail some day etc. But they still take all of that and they use their powerful and positive minds to handle them with ease.

They choose to accept all the pros and cons to being rich. And when they do that, they find that the cons aren’t really that big deal after all. Because they have chosen to see the pros as much more useful to allow the cons to come in the way as obstacles!

That’s Day 1.

And today is a new day – Day 2. Will report what happens and what I learnt tomorrow. Stay tuned!

[tags]complains, no complains, gratitude, experiment, grateful, feeling, millionnaire mindset, positive, life lessons[/tags]