LOVE, Kloudiia

Well, Day 5 went on rather smoothly.

Instead of having any new incident that has the potential to trigger a complain, my mind was on the indirect lessons I learnt from my popping tiles, and this experiment.

I shall compile all those thoughts in a finale post.

Since Day 5 went on without a glitch, therefore I’m combining Day 5 and 6 in a single post.

No wait! There was one very minor grouse I made yesterday. Since I’m posting all my experiences, so I guess it’s good to report it even if it’s something as minor as telling the whole world what a lousy handphone I’m using now.

Just to show the contrast on the “improved” me in Day 5 versus Day 1 haha

First, let me ask you a question. How do you find the photos taken in My Rite Of Election? Crisp and clear right? I thought so too. Alas, that’s not taken using my mobile. Compare them with the ones on this post. Ok, same photographer, different results.

The good ones came from the Sony Ericsson mobile, and boy, am I impressed by it’s 3.2 mega-pixel built-in camera! The photos speak for themselves, so I don’t have to say more here.

I shan’t say what phone I am using, suffice to know it’s a PDA phone. While praising how good the Sony Ericsson is, I can’t resist the urge to add in a liner that says how much “better” my phone is, in comparison. Not solely because of the camera, but also due to the frequency it hangs when I need to make a call or send an sms.

Seriously, I feel I was stating a fact more than complaining, since I was asked how good my phone is. But maybe, it came out because I can’t let go of the fact that I paid quite a bomb for a phone, thinking I would be freed from the need to carry a camera wherever I go, and my dream was dashed!

I am disappointed, and naturally that brought along some bits of frustration too.

In life, there will be things that do not meet our expectations. That’s what happen in relationships too.

Each of us go in with a predetermined set of standards, and we naively thought that so long as love is present (and some mistake attraction for love) things will just work out naturally, and effortlessly.

I’m sorry to be so plain in your face, but if you’re one of such people, it does not happen this way!

Rather than picking on those areas that don’t meet your expectations, why not be grateful that you have found the love of your life, and choose to focus on your partner’s strengths and merits?

In addition, instead of kicking a fuss on the problems, why not think deeper and find out the causes for your unhappiness? Expectations can be managed. To do that, you first need to diagnose the issue so that you can come up with the relevant and useful prescription.

For example, if you expect your boyfriend to pay for all the expenses when you’re out, and when he doesn’t, discuss about this and find out his values on money. Then manage that difference.

Be thankful that you have found each other. Cherish your relationship.

In my case, complaining about my phone doesn’t help. But since I’m not planning to change it anytime soon, rather than make my life miserable thinking how I was being “short-changed”, I can learn to appreciate its other features that have brought some form of convenience to me.

At least I can surf the net sometimes, and I have a bigger screen to boot!

Not bad after all, come to think of it.

[post edit: well I thought better of it and decided to shift Day 6 into another post. For the consistency of a post a day of gratitude]

[tags]gratitude, features, camera phone, sony ericsson, managing expectations, dating & relationships, complain[/tags]