All the talk about generosity, being open-minded and giving compliments so far, I wonder how many men are putting it into practice and have gotten some feedback on these new strategies? (or secretly swearing under their breath in front of the pc while reading these posts. Shouldn’t be, right? )

What’s the #4 factor that turns a woman on, especially during the first date?

Top 10 Women Turn-Ons #4: The Eye

Starting to sound eerie? No this isn’t the ghost movie “The Eye” but we’re talking about the gaze here. The type where a woman can literally feel her heart thumping so fiercely it’s threatening to jump out from her chest and her face flushing so much that she’s cursing herself for wasting the blusher after all.

She no longer needs one. Her face is as red as a lobster already.

A man’s deep loving gaze can melt a woman into a puddle, make her go weak in the knees and see stars in the sky.

Now, how hard is that? Not that hard really.

But for some guys who are socially extremely shy, they may find it hard to look at the woman’s eyes while talking, much less to give her that intense loving gaze to lift her to paradise.

For starters, if you are indeed such a shy creature, do not lock your gaze with her directly. There’s always an indirect route to take, and giving the same result.

Focus on the spot between her eyes. People generally can’t quite figure out if you are or aren’t looking into their eyes when your gaze is fixed on that spot. Do not be too self-conscious. Instead, immerge yourself into that moment with this girl you’ve had a crush on and some nice feelings. Then you’ll want to lock your gaze with her naturally.

But, this should be used as the first step to looking through the windows of her soul, not the permanent remedy.

So guys, if you want to make the woman thinking of you after that first date, give her the gaze. I know it sounds near to impossible (yes I know those love-at-first-sight believers will attest to this) that you will fall in love with the person on the first date, so I’m not expecting a really loving gaze (save this for your other half :)).

What I’d like to see is the kind of gaze that spells interest, that tells me I’m the only gal he has eyes for that night, that makes me feel special as his date. It’s the 100% undivided attention he has for me.

Prep yourself up for this date. Shine your limelight on her, and be genuinely interested to know her and make her feel good. This should be easy, for if you’re not even remotely keen on knowing her better, why would you bother asking her out for a date? So, amplify this feelings in you and rub them off onto her via your eyes.

Conversely, if you have roving eyes then it’s really wise for you to tame it, for obvious reasons.

Speak to her soul through those windows. There can never be a better way to explore the depths of your date and to make her feel so unique than through those eyes.

After all, it’s all about attention too, isn’t it?

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