LOVE, Kloudiia

How many times have we been wowed by Christy Chung with her oh-so-womanly, feminine and sexy look that’s been fully optimised to good use by her advertisers? If you do watch TV, then I’m sure your eyes will be peeled on the set when her latest Marie France Bodyline commercial sizzles onscreen as Christy weaves her way seductively between 2 cars parked very close together, teasing the man in the other car so much that he is ravenous for more – moves.

As we evolve from Intelligent Quotient (IQ) as the main yardstick to measure a person’s “market value”, to the more important Emotional Quotient (EQ), I’d like to introduce the new and ever more influential factor in the love equation – the Attractive Quotient (AQ).

Let’s all be honest here with ourselves. We all judge a book by its covers, I mean, at least for the very first 60 seconds, that extends to the whole of the first date or occurence of meeting someone new. Especially so for guys. (I can’t stress enough on this, really)

It has been proven, by studies or statistics or by pure observation and real-life stories around us that, looks or physical appearance does top the list when it comes to choosing one’s potential partner. 

Several occasions I have been told by my members that despite having a good conversation and a rather good time, they still do not feel that their dates could be one of their “potential”. After much probing from us, and most reluctantly do they admit that they don’t find their dates attractive.

Sadly to admit, the above scenario applies more to guys than girls, meaning it’s usually the guys who find the ladies not attractive to them, and so they just aren’t motivated to ask them out for a 2nd date. This is so because mostly, we girls, albeit setting a certain standard on looks-wise, tend to be more impressed with a man’s brains, rather than brawns. So there you go.

Hence, the question here is, how to make yourself attractive? Not all of us, in fact, most of us are not blessed with killer features and a devilish figure. Natural result - a less than 10 score in the looks department.

However, good news is, there are ways to make yourself appear more attractive, because attractiveness is something that is perceived, rather than, actual. And we all know that perceptions can be changed, don’t we?

Ok, besides physical appearance, other determinants which I feel can skew you favourably on the AQ scale include:

• overall image
• social graces
• knowledge
• inner nature & personallity

Physical appearance, which I’m dead sure everyone, yes, everyone will know can be greatly enhanced using make-up. So, if by now you still can’t differentiate between a blusher vs an eye-shadow, or an eyeliner vs a lipstick, please, it’s time you pick up the Art of Makeup. For guys, things are much simpler. All you have to make sure is you look clean and proper and yes, you smell nice.

How about image? Though closely tied to physical appearance as it may seem, it’s about getting the combination of the right clothes (style, colour, cut etc), hairstyle, shoes, accessories to bring out the best in you. Go for colours that flatter your skin, designs that suit and augment your body shape and style that draws out your true personality.

With pleasant social graces, extensive knowledge (remarkably useful for men), and a warm and wonderful personality, it all adds up what I fondly call the Attractive Quotient (AQ). This kind of attraction acts like a magnet drawing your date to you like bees to honey.

Of course, use of appropriate body language certainly makes you appear more endearing and inviting to the eyes of your date.

To progress on the AQ score isn’t that difficult, what it takes is just a conscientious effort and to behave like a 10. Walk like one, move like one, talk like one, and surely, look like one, even if you are not, yet, a 10.

Oops, did I mention that having a great smile will melt anyone’s heart? What’s stopping you from showing that set of pearlies next time you are on a date, then?