“Kloudiia
I have been dating this guy for over 2 mths. we have been out over 10x and each date lasts at least 5-8hrs. some of them even over 12 hrs. 2 weeks ago, I asked him where we are heading and he said “I like you..very much in fact. but i am probably not ready to be in a relationship”. So I probed him the reason and he mentioned about his emotional baggage. So he is still in love with his ex gf who broke up 6 yrs ago. They are now both single and travel on holidays together and are “friends with benefits”.
“Kloudiia
Hi, I am only 18 but I have lost all my confidence in guys. I first started having my first relationship when I was 16 and that was my last. I never did trusted another guy after because I felt that all they were saying were flattering and all lies. My first relationship was like a breeze, it came a little too soon and gone with the wind even before anything much started. It lasted for only three months. But I was into what he said, stuffs like “I love you till the end of time and space”, ” For you are the brightest star, no other stars I therefore see.” Please help me to regain my trust and confidence in men.” - P
“Hi Kloudiia,
I’m C, I’ve been reading your book and I just started this Chapter 15 on trusting each other.
My boyfriend and I started our relationship before I found out he actually had another girlfriend. They were on the rocky side already but still I was kept in the dark until I checked his smses one day and confronted him. He promised to settle that problem but he dragged 2 full mths before finally mentioning the break up to the girl. Before that, while I was away in Japan, he went out with her secretly but I too, found out when I saw his smses.
“Kloudiia,
I have tried explaining to her that I don’t mean to control her but she just won’t give me another chance. She told me that it’s the end for us already and let’s just be friends but from what my friend found out, she told him that she do not bear to let go of this relationship that’s why she is very upset. We have not spoken to each other during these 2 months because somehow she keeps avoiding me whenever I try to talk to her.
“Hi Kloudiia
Recently, I find myself falling for a guy who just divorced with his wife. I got to know him through a friend. However from my friend’s understanding of that guy, he feels that he is a nice guy but I’m not his type. This is because he prefers confident, happening and sporty girls. I feel so inferior and I started to think: am I really that bad? Is the problem with me or him? I’m wondering why would he want more happening gals? How come matured guys tend to think this way?” - S
Dear S
“Kloudiia,
I had a girlfriend for 2.5 long years. During these 2.5 years everything was so fine (we do break after 1/2 year but was patch back). She was the pefect girlfriend and wife to be. I really love her a lot a lot. We decided to purchase a flat together. She look happy with the plan but when she discussed with her friend, she retreated.
“Dear Kloudiia,
I am a secondary school student and recently I met my senior who I haven’t met in 10 years. He’s really very nice to me, he’s given me a lot of help in everything and we pretty much share the same interests and the thing is, I think I’m in love with him…
From the time I met him until now I have only seen him 4 times but have kept in contact through sms and msn messenger. I told him ‘I like you’ twice and both times he freaked out. I asked him if he liked me and he said ‘as a friend’.
“Hi Kloudiia,
My girlfriend and I broke up about three months ago. With every other breakup I’ve ever had, I felt worst immediately afterwards, and then felt better and better over time, but this time it’s just the opposite; I felt pretty good at first, and have felt worse and worse since. I was really sad to lose her, I missed her everyday. Last time she will keep me company when I feeling down. We both cried and cried on the day we broke up.
“Hi Kloudiia,
I’m just wondering in my 3yrs plus relationship with my boyfriend..hmm how should I start with..these few days we are having cold war with each other..in fact we quarrel..that’s why..haiz..don’t know why I kept on quarrel with my boyfriend over small things..indeed gals are sensitive or should I say I’m a petty gal coz I always make a big fuss over small things..please help me Kloudiia to overcome these?? I really cherish my relationship with my boyfriend and don’t wanna lose him..sob sob !!” - I
Dear I
“Hi Kloudiia,
First time visiting your site, been great reading through all your advice. Heres a question: Does chemistry between 2 people necessarily make them date material?
Here’s my situation. I’m currently a university student. Recently, a close friend of mine started coming to my studyroom at my condo to study with me. We’ve always been close and share everything with one another.
