All along I’ve known how powerful perceptions are. In fact many times the perceived value overshadows the actual value of the thing itself. The  scariest part is, perceptions are formed unconsciously. Hence when it affects how we value something, it acts almost unknowingly to the person himself.

I was reminded of this power recently over two very, very trivial incidences. Both involve food – one love of my life.

My sis and I were walking past a bakery and I casually mentioned I’d like to get some bread. Without thinking, my sis said: “The bread here isn’t nice.”

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Want to guess what that is?

Could it be “You look fat / You have put on weight”? Or “You don’t look good in this colour”?

No no no! The fact that someone commented on how you look only means that they have noticed you. You are not transparent!

Therefore, I think the worst thing to tell a woman is this: “Nobody notices you anyway!”

How sad that would be, if nobody notices us.

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It was a bright, warm and sunny day. I alighted from the bus and scanned my surroundings, looking for my destination.

It was a warm, and as such, probably sunny day and hence bright. He alighted from the bus and felt his surroundings, searching for his destination.

Our paths wouldn’t have crossed if I didn’t turn my head to look at him. He was still feeling his way, but apparently, he had came to a standstill. Moving his cane in a left right direction, he was “stuck” between two stretches of metallic seats.

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TODAY held a very meaningful contest, I thought.

In celebration of Singapore’s 44th birthday, the newspaper had a photo contest that best showcased Singapore then, and now.

As I reminisced my own childhood looking at others’ from the photos submitted by our fellow Singaporeans, I had this thought: “How wonderful to be born in the 70s.”

Indeed, those who were born in the 70s have, in my opinion, the best of both worlds. We journeyed through Singapore’s progress and changes. Many of us had that luxury (now we call it luxury!) to live in a kampong, before we had a taste of how it was like to squeeze the whole family in a small pigeon-hole like flat.

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The radio DJ said something that startled me as I was reading my morning newspaper. Someone had called into the station to complain about the “lines of wisdom” (I prefer calling them this way) on the Queen of Caldecott’s face in the latest drama The Ultimatum, that had just wrapped up last week.

I’d indeed noticed some lines tracing the eyes of both Zoe Tay and Fann Wong when watching a certain episode.

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Hi friends, in case you haven’t notice, I’ve put up a new poll: When did you start dating?

Singapore has now modernised to a very wide extent. With it comes a huge difference in values, culture and lifestyle, as compared to older times. Older times not just in my parents’ generation, but also in my generation as compared to those born a decade later.

10 years can mean a lot of difference! So please help me in getting some information about the age when you start dating by voting in this poll now. Thanks!

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As we get more modernised, there’s no way to avoid being more commercialised as well. Both seems to happen simulataneously. It’s like you can’t do without excessive inflation (in the initial period) when a country’s economy is experiencing exponential growth.

So when it comes to the matters of the heart, merchants wont’t let go of any chance to provide more spaces and rooms for our love birds to declare their undying love for each other, and to have a ultra super romantic celebration on 14 February – in order to make that day memorable, so they claim.

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As mentioned in this post, I would like to talk abit about social consideration. As much as it is lacking more and more now, I’d like to look at it from another perspective.

One of the underlying reasons why there are so many noise created by inconsiderate people in public is because they lack social consideration.

They don’t care much for others, and they are very me centred. I know I won’t be able to do much to change their values and show more consideration for others by blogging about it, and I’m not going to do this either.

What I’d like to say here is rather to highlight the stark difference I see in showing consideration.

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What do you remember from the good ole’ times? Or for some, bad ole’ times?

I realised that I have a very bad memory when it comes to that – my childhood. Most of the events were forgotten, but some are remembered, and very fondly so. I remember the usual scenes, as I replay them over and over again.

Even then, those were incidences that took place when I was after 6-7 years old! Anything before that – sorry, zero recollection. Whatever images I can conjure up came because of my mom’s vivid description plus my more-than-well-developed imagination.

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Some of you may aleady know – I have moved.

So as with all relocation, you have to live in the new habitat with boxes for some time. It wasn’t until yesterday that they were completely cleared and unpacked. Hurray! No more boxes lying around taking up precious space. Phew!

This is not about boasting how bad good I am at packing. But about this little lesson I learnt – things go missing!

Initially, I will panic. Then I will ransack all the boxes and start a frantic search. Sometimes I got lucky. Other times I don’t. The item remains as a missing item.

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