LOVE, Kloudiia

Mad cat or lovely cat?

You tell me your decision at the end of this post. 

Have you heard of people saying don’t bring your anger to bed? Do you agree?  

I agree. But I wasn’t the one who said that, though I’m one of the avid perpetuators.

Brenda had a “fuming” nickname in her msn tonight. “Hmm, something’s gone wrong. Must be” I thought.

So I started to chat with her, and this was what went on (the words may differ slightly as I’m writing it out from memory)

K: “Wha, so angry? Cool down girl”

B: ”Oh that was 4 hours ago. I was so mad. But now I’m ok. Thanks”

K: “Oh that’s great then”

B: “Bible says we can be angry. So long as we cool down before sunset” (or something like that to what I remember)

K: “Is it? Which part of it says that?”

B: “Wait.”

I waited. Few seconds later, the msn window flashed.

B: “Eph 4:26″

K: “Thanks!”

B: “Welcome ”

End of msn.

I reached out for my Bible, which is conveniently placed within my reach (for obvious reasons ha!), flipped to Eph 4:26 and found this phrase:

Even if you are angry, you must not sin: never let the sun set on your anger.

Many couples shared this concept of not bringing your anger to bed with me. But I didn’t know there is such a phrase in the Bible too! (What a good Catholic-to-be am I, oh…) Thanks Brenda for bringing this to my attention.

So here I am bringing this message to you too. Regardless of where it came from, this way of teaching us to remain loving and harmonious is a good and laudable one.

We get irritated by some bunches of weirdos every now and then. Or we choose to respond to that event or person with anger, frustration and irritation.

It’s alright to be angry. Let your anger flow through you and then out from your body. Do not attempt to suppress it, for it may end up as a gust of “bad energy” inside your body, exploding one fine day in a most unexpected situation.

Just imagine anger as a wave of heat that either originates from your head or heart. Allow it to flow through your body before dissipating through your skin cells. Then, you resume to neutrality. Your heart is beating normally now.

If you happen to be upset with none other than your partner, then things are slightly trickier. Bear in mind this then:

If you bring anger to bed, then you will have an angry sleep. You will be tossing and turning, for your heart is not resting well. You wake up feeling lousy.

If you bring neutrality or better still, love to bed, then you will have a lovely sleep. Your whole heart, mind and body is at peace. You wake up feeling good, refreshed and energetic.

Which one will you choose?

You don’t have to resolve the matter there and then if it’s too late to talk over it. Just commit to not stay angry after the sun is down and the bed cover is up.  

Not staying angry doesn’t mean you agree with what he/she has done or said. It just means being easy on yourself so that you can have a good night’s sleep. It also means you will enjoy a better and happier relationship.

So now, mad cat or lovely cat?

[tags]dealing with anger, anger management, emotion, God, Bible, love, marriage, relationships, resolve[/tags]