LOVE, Kloudiia

We were holding hands in the cab, when all of a sudden, the pain overtook me and I had to wriggle my hand off.

The ring that I was wearing on my fourth finger had actually poked into my flesh and caused quite an indent (due to the design), which was the root of the pain that I experienced earlier.

I showed the “indent area” to Stuart and pouted. Of course, he began to do some form of “healing” for me, in the form of patting my head, hugging me and telling me it’s alright. Ha!

I would like to use this scenario as an analogy to begin this post.

Have you heard of this saying “Love hurts”?

My question is, if it’s love, why it hurts? Isn’t love supposed to be warm, sweet, healing and happy? Unless it’s not true love. So, if it’s love, then why does it hurt?

There was an occasion where Stuart and I truly experienced this – that love hurts. Stuart did something that he thought was good for me, and the family. In fact, he was doing it out of love. When he made known it to me, I was stunned. It wasn’t something that was good for me in fact, and he knew it after I gave him that look.

The truth was, he had actually just sabotaged me by making that decision.

Well, we had both sorted this issue out and came to a closure. In the midst of doing that, we both experienced an avalanche of emotion that welled up inside us, that were released slowly as we talked about it.

Of course, I forgave him. Because I understood where he was coming from. He did that out of love.

Many times, you hear people saying “I did this all because of you!” Whether or not that is true, I don’t know. But in those times when they were, that your family or loved ones did certain things out of love for you, they may be blinded to the actual consequences of their actions on you.

At times, the effect is less than happy or wanted by you. When such situations occur, take a moment and look at their intention. I know you have the urge to tell them that what they did have done more harm than good, I know. You may even be in a state of shock and disbelief at how did that happen? If they really meant well, then why didn’t they put themselves in your shoes and see if it’s really for your good?

Trust me, occasionally, they really don’t know that much. Their intention is really simple, and straight-forward. Though the results may speak otherwise.

How can we handle this? Since it’s done out of love, then receive it with love. When both of you have reunited, only then you deal with the outcome and work on making it better together, as a couple, as a family.

Therefore, when love hurts, do not be blind to the fact where the wound originates – love. So you only need to give more love to soothe the wound, and at moments like these, forgiveness speaks the loudest and could be the best gift you can give to your partner.

[tags]love hurts, true love, love and marriage, relationships, spouse, conflicts in marriage, forgiveness[/tags]