LOVE, Kloudiia

Today’s TODAY carried this news: All in the name of love. In a nutshell, the news says there are 8 Singaporeans who have been “recruited by West African syndicates to smuggle drugs”.

These eight have been lured with “promises of love and friendship” and “free holidays and cash payments”.

My knee-jerk response to this news was: “How could this happen? Don’t they think at all?”

Immediately after I said that, I knew I had made a judgment, and a bad one at that. Of course that can happen. Anything can happen when we allow our emotions to rule our heads! And don’t we find ourselves guilty of this so many times in our lives?

That brings me to this point I want to make here: Love can be dangerous when it’s being exploited. 

You have heard of horror stories of how tragedies happen when love had went terribly wrong. So how can we prevent more tragedies from happening to our society, to our friends, and maybe, to ourselves? 

As I tell my coaching clients, I’d like to tell you now. Before you go into a relationship, besides using your heart, please, use your head too.

You are born with a head and a heart for good reasons. While your heart tells you whether the person you are dating is sincere, your head tells you whether this same person is compatible or not.

Do not jump into a relationship just because it “feels so good” or “everything just feels so right”. Of course it feels right honey, because both of you are in love, and guess what? You’re too blind (or too happy?) to see any signs of incompatibility, if there’s any.

Your heart, when they flutter, they lose all sense of direction, focus and purpose. At times, this organ can be rather irresponsible toward its actions. And that’s when your head comes in. Your head will tell you whether or not you should allow your heart to continue to be more fluttered or to nip it in a little.

So, use these two precious assets wisely, for they can and will serve you very well in your relationship and marriage.