LOVE, Kloudiia

A healthy relationship should be one that allows for individuality. It is a fertile land of love, support and lots of encouragement for our partner to pursue their goals and dreams. 

Kristin Richard was only 25 years old when she met her future husband, the famous cycler who not only won his fight against cancer but also became a four time champion in the most illustrious bicycle race in the world, the Tour de France. This incredible man is none other than Lance Armstrong.

Here is a short video clip and an article on the truth about her marriage as shown in “The Opray Winfrey Show”.

It is sad to learn that one is slowly losing his/her own individuality in an effort to becoming the epitome of a good husband or wife. In this case, Kristin allowed the real her to slip away quietly without realising it until it was too late. The once opinionated woman soon lost her voice as she fully submerged herself into the shadow of Lance, playing the wonderful wife and mother role so well that she forgot about a very important role – to be herself and to retain her trueness and core.

This tells us that in order for a relationship to last, it has to be fulfilling for the husband and wife. If only one person gets the entire dough, that leaves the other totally starved.

You lost your identity, you also lose your self-esteem. Whatever your partner wants automatically becomes your goal as well. You do not stop and pause for a moment to consider if that is really what you would like to have. Your only goal is to meet your partner’s needs.

When your husband knows that he can completely stop his pursuing for your love and affection, it kind of makes him lose interest and attractionf for you as well. I am not suggesting you playing mind games with your husband, but what I meant is you have to continue cultivating your own strengths and keep growing so that your husband will find you interesting and fun to be with. Most importantly, he will still be so crazy over you as you are constantly giving him unexpected surprises!

A relationship is about a connection between two or more people. A connection means to have tos and fros. Becoming a yes woman removes all possibilities of a discussion and unpredictability. It takes out the spirit and sparks from your relationship. When one is unable to love oneself anymore, how do you expect another person to love him/her back?

This inability to reconnect with yourself on a constant basis and giving yourself some “me time” and personal space means you will find yourself experiencing more loneliness even with your husband and children around. That is because when your soul is not nurtured, it is not possible to continue giving selflessly. The pipe responsible to transport the love between you and your partner is clogged.

When one is ripped of his/her soul, what is left is only the shell.

[tags]Love and Marriage,Trapped,Dating,Relationships,Individuality,Personal space,Growth[/tags]