It’s obviious that she is not ready for a new relationship, but at least she is still willing to be a friend to you, so not all is lost. Like what Kloudiia suggested, choose either of the option that you think suits you best, or the option that you think you can manage better.

Give yourself and her some time, just be there for her whenever she needs it, be a friend to her, use your sincerity, honesty and truthfulness to win her heart slowly, bit by bit. Don’t rush thing for her nor yourself.

Lastly, you are already leading a normal life, cause when someone that is truly not living a normal life, will not step out to seek help, you did just that, so not to worry too much nor put yourself into undie stress.

X:

I would probably say the same thing as Kloudiia to you, and to add those that I’ve mentioned above to C.

Love can’t be rush, be patience, be a friend to her, and see if you can help her to get healed of her past.

W:

Like Kloudiia said, girls tends to enter into a relationship with a ‘saviour’ mind set. Hoping to help their bf to change of their bad habits or behaviours. This is ver much being influence by the countless movies and TV series about such relationships that can be successful and flourish, often viewers forgot to detach themselves from the movies and TV series from the reality.

By doing this, it’s not doing yourself any favour at all.

Also, since the his past relationship had only last for 5 months and yet after 6 years, he still habour about it and can’t let go, this have shown that he is not letting go of the past at all, perhaps due to a emotional past or a relationship that he had poured too much into. He may still hold any false hope, or emotional scars that he couldn’t let go.

Now the question is, can you let him go too?

There are plenty of means to enrich your life, if you can afford it, go for a long holiday to places. Travelling is really one of the best way to enrich your life. Or be a volunteer, sign as volunteer to help out those needy families or people, go for overseas assignments. Take up classes, join activity groups, participate in forums.

W:

I’m also in my early 40s and a divorcee, a single father myself, I can fully understand your desire to get remarry, cause that’s what I long for too. However, such things just can’t be rush.

Participate and get involves in activities groups, discussion forums, single clubs, community center activities, Resident Committee’s activities, expand your social circle. To find more chance to find your lady, then be a friend in these activities. To find more friends, be a friend first.

J:

Honestly, there is no perfect man/woman in the world, but there can be a perfect man/woman in our world. Just like Kloudiia mentioned, beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.

Being a perfect man/woman in our world, does not necessary means there is no more room to work thing out to improve, perfection here don’t mean absolute but rather in term of personality and characters that is best suits you, but when two person live together, there will bound to be conflicts, even if two perfect people live together. The challenge thus is how to work things together, to improve the relationship, to venture, to find happiness, together, making the relationship even more perfect.