LOVE, Kloudiia

“Hi Kloudiia

Recently, I find myself falling for a guy who just divorced with his wife. I got to know him through a friend. However from my friend’s understanding of that guy, he feels that he is a nice guy but I’m not his type. This is because he prefers confident, happening and sporty girls. I feel so inferior and I started to think: am I really that bad? Is the problem with me or him? I’m wondering why would he want more happening gals? How come matured guys tend to think this way?” - S

Dear S

So, what type of person are you? What are your strengths and forte? What about your weaknesses and faults? Before you can ascertain if a guy is the one for you, you first need to know about yourself.

A relationship is just like a jig-saw puzzle. It’s a matter of finding the right piece to fit in. If one piece doesn’t fit, that doesn’t mean that piece is at fault, or it’s not good enough. It only means it’s not the right one, wouldn’t you agree?

Therefore, even if this guy isn’t suitable for you, I hope you can see that there is no problem with you. It’s just a matter of compatability. You are perfectly fine!

As for what your friend said, how are you allowing that to affect what you think and feel about this whole thing? Are you giving your friend the permission to control your love life?

If not for what he said, what would you have planned to do? What will it take for you to put it into action?

How well do you know this guy, save for whatever you found out from your friend? Have you ever had the chance to chat with him up close and personal? If not, how will you know how much of what your friend said is true? And to what extent is it true?

There are many definitions of the word “happening”. Could it be someone who is always partying, or someone who is fun-loving?

If by allowing your friend to make you feel inferior and lose all your confidence, aren’t you doing yourself a great dis-service? How different will you feel if you choose to respond in another way? Why don’t you do that and notice what is going in your mind.

Be brave and go explore. You won’t know how the fruits look like unless you first sow the seed and water the tree. Therefore, you won’t know if there’s any chance of developing unless you go and discover for yourself.

If you are serious in wanting to know how you can do it, I could assist you in this journey. Let me know when you’re ready and we can proceed from there.

Best wishes to you S!

Love, Kloudiia

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