LOVE, Kloudiia

“Hi Kloudiia,

First time visiting your site, been great reading through all your advice. Heres a question: Does chemistry between 2 people necessarily make them date material?

Here’s my situation. I’m currently a university student. Recently, a close friend of mine started coming to my studyroom at my condo to study with me. We’ve always been close and share everything with one another.

During this studying period, we had lots of fun, lots of joking around with each other, serious heart-to-heart talks about our dreams, our past, etc etc. I currently feel our chemistry is incredible and I’m attracted to that. Problem is, during our heart-to-heart talks, she mentioned that she just wants to have fun and that she goes for the “bad-boy” type of guy. I like this girl and I want to take things further. Problem is I don’t fall within her category of preferred guys and we’ve jokingly told each other hell will freeze over before we end up together. Advice please?

Thanks loads!” – A

Dear A

You’re lucky, don’t you find? You have such an excellent buddy whom you can share your dreams, and to study with you! Whoa! In my time, when we say we want to study together, we always ended up eating, chatting, watching TV – anything we can do except the real deal.

It’s always tricky when you want to cross the fine line between friendship and a romantic relationship. In your case, there is no doubt that you are sure of how you feel towards her. So that settles one part of the equation.

Have you ever find out what her definition of a bad boy is? Maybe to her, a bad boy is an attitude, or purely a physical attraction.

Maybe all she wants is some cheekiness and lots and lots of flirting. It seems you guys have lots of fun, but do you flirt with her at all? If you haven’t for fear of antagonising this friendship, then I’d strongly suggest you to learn how to flirt with a lady.

Not only will you not hurt the chemistry between you two, but you will have the chance to see it blooming and going towards the direction you like.

The next time if she says that “hell will freeze over” again, maybe you can reply “How do you know?”, and give her a very serious loving look in your eyes and hold it for just 3 2 1 seconds. Then, you can revert to your usual self and laugh with her.

Sometimes, all a girl needs is more assurance. Who knows, she could be feeling the same and is using the “bad boy” tactic to test if you are attracted to her or not!

Just remember to drop hints every now and then that no matter what happens, you will always treasure this special relationship with her and you will want to protect it at all cost.

Have faith and have fun! I hope to hear good news from you!

Love, Kloudiia