“Hi Kloudiia,
I’m just wondering in my 3yrs plus relationship with my boyfriend..hmm how should I start with..these few days we are having cold war with each other..in fact we quarrel..that’s why..haiz..don’t know why I kept on quarrel with my boyfriend over small things..indeed gals are sensitive or should I say I’m a petty gal coz I always make a big fuss over small things..please help me Kloudiia to overcome these?? I really cherish my relationship with my boyfriend and don’t wanna lose him..sob sob !!” - I
Dear I
You are one step towards making the change – by realising what is the issue with you. At the same time, I’m kind of worried that you could be the one sabotaging yourself in this process.
How?
By admitting your weakness.
When one is willing to do that, it usually means two possibilities. One is you really want to change by identifying it. The other is to let things be as it is, since you have already admitted it then that means you are not beyond cure and your partner should accept you as you are.
Which one do you belong to? If you fall in the latter category, then what must it take for you to be committed to change and be a more understanding girlfriend?
Your boyfriend is telling you that he is not going to suffer in silence anymore. There are certain things that you can do right now to end the cold war.
I need you to ask yourself the following questions:
- Recall the usual scene of you flaring up. What is the cause?
- What is your intention of creating a big fuss out of small things? Some girls do it to get attention, while others do it for a myraid of reasons. What’s yours?
- Can you achieve your intention via other methods? If yes, communicate these to your boyfriend and check out how he can help to fulfill it for you.
Show your boyfriend you are really sincere and genuine in wanting to make the change so that your relationship can have a second chance.
Take care and best of luck! If you have any updates, I hope you’ll keep me in the loop.
Love, Kloudiia
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