LOVE, Kloudiia

“Hi Kloudiia,

I have read your ebook on attraction and I really feel despondent after finishing it. You see, my problem is that since communication is the most vital tool to starting a relationship, how do I go about doing so when I am cursed with a speech impediment?

Everytime I talk, people look at me like as if I have some disease and snigger behind my back about my obvious deficiency in the speech department. As a result I have few friends and even when I have friends, they are all guys. Speaking up in class to answer questions make the girls sneer at my defects and giggle behind my back.

It is a horrible feeling to have. I want to know what it is like to show love to a girl and start a relationship but due to this curse I have, I am unable to do. After reading your ebook on how to communicate to generate better impression, I feel utterly useless with myself. Please do not get me wrong, your ebook is saliently helpful but I sort of feel it is of much better value to those who are normal unlike me.

I have tried to change the other departments of myself like in the physical department. I train at a gym virtually everyday regardless of how busy I am, I read up on current affairs to make myself worldly smart but it seems like all this is useless if I do not walk up to a girl and converse properly. How can I expect a girl to chase me?? That is ludicrous and so I seek your help on approaching girls for relationships. I will appreciate any help from you good or bad, as honest as possible. I can take it.” - HT

Dear HT

My first impression of you HT? “Wow, this guy sure writes extremely well!” Now, I’m wondering if you are able to write so well because of your speech impediment or because you are just born with this flair?

I am inclined to believe you brushed up your writing so that even without speaking you can let your thoughts flow with every word you write and every sentence you construct. I hope I’m right.

Why do you choose to believe you are cursed with that impediment? Why isn’t it a blessing? Can it be a blessing?

Think. What is it that you have gained as a result of this? Has it helped you to see people in a different light? Has it helped you to be a better writer than any of your peers for example?

Has it filtered out people who aren’t worthy of being friends? Has it taught you the importance and gist of having relationships (not just love, but family, friends, school mates etc)? That it is through sincerity that you start a friendship and maintain it through?

If you have chosen to see it as a form of blessing, you would have seen all these benefits that you can gain. I’m sure there will be one girl in your school who is hoping to be friends with you, but maybe she is too shy to approach you? Maybe you were too caught up with the people who sniggered and made fun at you and neglected to open your eyes and look around you for one face that has been smiling at you and subtlely beckoning you to go forward and say “hi”?

If you have chosen to see it as a form of blessing, you would know that your speech problem has been such a great motivating factor for you to upgrade yourself in so many other areas. Now, frankly and honestly ask yourself, if not for this, would you have spent all your leisure time having fun instead? Would you still be as well-read, as fit or as smart?

Stop focusing on things and people you don’t want to focus.

Start focusing on things and people you want and should be focusing.

Focus on those sniggers and you get hurt.

Focus on those blessings and you get blessed.

At the same time, have you considered that starting a friendship is a two-person effort? How much sincerity have you shown to the girls that you like to be friends? Do you only have the intention to have a boy-girl friend relationship with them?

Are you proud of who you are? How do you see yourself as a person with such a challenge?

If you are bothered with your own condition, you can’t fault others for feeling it the same way as you do too.

Imagine this. What would happen if one day, you were to wake up feeling so damn good about yourself and the impediment is but one part of you, something that you don’t care about for it does not define who you are as a person. Then go to school in such a high energy mode, smile to everyone you meet in school and keep this energy up the whole day feeling so damn good about yourself.

Tell me your results. I believe your classmates will be initially shocked but if you continue doing this, I’m sure one fine day nobody will be able to resist your efforts at being friendly and reciprocate with a smile too! Because if I were them, I too would take my hat off you for you have faced your condition with such a positive attitude and showing so much confidence that I want to be your friend and find out how you do it! I’ll be proud to be in your friends list!

Positive vibes are very contagious. People who caught it will like to be around you, for they find you to be a good company.

Don’t wait for others to pass these good vibes to you. Be proactive, be a leader. Start having these yourself and pass to others instead.

Lastly, on your speech impediment. Have you seeked help on it before? Were you born with it or it came along afterwards due to certain events?

I’m sure there are schools and classes available. Have you checked them out already? At the same time, the attitude and mindset you have towards your condition also affects you in a big way as to how you deal with it.

Are you in control of it, or are you allowing yourself to be controlled by it?

You have a choice to make, so did this man John Di Lemme. John chose to view his stuttering condition as not an obstacle but rather a challenge for him to see how far he can stretch. Now, John is a world-renowned motivational speaker, accomplished author and multi-million dollar entrepreneur.

Wasn’t he being labelled by society as well due to his stuttering? You bet he was. But now, people are flocking to him by the millions just to hear this man speak on stage! Now, if John can do it, so can you HT!

The question is: do you want to do it? It isn’t going to be easy, but it is achievable I’m sure.

In fact, right now in my mind I have two offers for you that you can take up easily and effortlessly. The rest is up to you to go from there.

One - download this interview with John Di Lemme done by Stuart Tan of InternetMarketingSingapore.com – Find Your Why. And Fly! Listen to this man and you won’t believe he used to stutter but now words of magic and power are actually spilling out from his mouth every second, words that have changed so many people’s lives. One of them could be yours too.

Two – go for this preview. Attend this course. I’m sure it will help you to discover more about yourself, learn how to stay focused on your goals and achieve breakthroughs in personal excellence.

As for your question on how to approach girls, well I suspect if you can get this fear of speaking eradicated, then you will have no fear to walk up to a girl and say “hello”. Hey, after all, you are school mates, aren’t you?

Last but not least, hey, you aren’t suppose to feel despondent after reading my eBook! How dare you! Hahaha

It’s how you choose to face the alternatives that are laying out in front of you. I know, sometimes knowing that you actually are in control of your own destiny and there are 1,001 things which you can do now to improve yourself can be quite scary. All of a sudden, you freak out!

I know how this feels, because I am going through such a period myself too. Right now! But again, it’s a matter of how we choose to respond to the events in our life. You can make things happen, or you can just let them be.

What’s your choice, HT?

For me, I’ve chosen to march ahead, to continue what I’m doing even if I may be anxious about the results and response from people. To choose to see the biggest fear as fear itself and to face it with courage and dexterity.

What’s your choice, HT?

Love, Kloudiia

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