LOVE, Kloudiia

 

Dear C

An average guy? Well, that means you are not an ego-centric guy then, am I right to say this? So that also means you are probably a guy who is sensitive to a woman’s needs and have no qualms in placing her preferences ahead of yours? Wooh!

You know what C? Reading your email gives me a feeling that you already knew what you need to do and want to do. All you need is perhaps a booster jab of confidence and you’re done!

Alright, some questions for you to tinker over to get a better diagnosis of the situation now.

How did you get her number? From her directly or through a third party? If she gave it to you, then there really is no reason for your delayed response in calling her or sending her a first text message with a simple “Hi, I’m C …”

If you got her number through the unorthodox way, her friends may have alerted her that there’s this guy who has asked for her number. Still, no reason for your delayed response in sending her a text message with a simple “Hi, I’m C …”

Technology has made lovely improvements for guys as shy as you to appreciate. Starting with a text message is by no means imposing nor agressive. You can kick off a roll of conversation to get her familiarised with you, so that when you next see her in church again, it would be more than just a “Hi”. It will be a big smile, some eye contact and a full-blown conversation.

If you are feeling too fidgety speaking to her face to face, why not write some notes? In this era, the old-fashioned love notes may just become popular again. Slip it into her hand when you walk past her. Or ask her friends to pass to her. You can start with some greetings first, before asking her for a coffee date after church. She may just like this kind of school-like method of pursuing!

Knowing what topic to say is good. Am I suppose to take that as you have rehearsed a thousand times mentally what to say on your first date? If that’s the case, then remember when you see her, it’s the 1,001 time already. Not the first. So you can and will be as natural as you allow yourself to be, and let her enjoy your company as much as you enjoy hers.

Since you are a very good listener, then there is no need for me to tell you to take a genuine interest in her as a person and her life rather than rattling away with your pre-rehearsed speech, right? In any case, if you do need a quick glance-over, here’s 10 tips on first date no-nos you can use.

Have you prayed to the Lord? Prayer will help to allay your anxiety and ask God to lead you to her. Have faith in Him that He will guide you with the Holy Spirit. 

I hope this helps, C.

Last but not least, take a deep breath, take up your mobile phone, and send her the first text message. Every big dream starts with the first step. Take that now …

Good luck to you and have fun!

Sincerely, Kloudiia

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