LOVE, Kloudiia

“Kloudiia

Hey..it’s really nice that you’re out there to help people with relationship problems.

Well…I’m currently a high school student. The problem I’m facing is that the guy I really like a lot falls in love with a younger girl at my school. He attends another school, and since I’m the only person he knows in my school, he’s asking me to help him with his relationship. But the truth is how can I do this to torture myself?

I’ve known him for quite sometime, and I guess he only considers me a friend. What should I do? Should I help him but feel really bad inside or should I confess to him even though we may not be able to remain as friends? Please help me~~

This thing is bothering me every single day… it makes me feel really down and depressed and whenever I see that girl at school… I feel really weird, like why is this happening to me?” - JS

Dear JS

Aww, you must be having such a painful struggle inside now, aren’t you? I can truly understand how that feels. I’ve been through your stage too.

You know what? Do what will make you happy.

If seeing him happy makes you happy too (even when your heart could be aching), then do him the favour he’s asking. For what it takes, he may get to know you even better during this period of “teacher-student” liaisons?

But if helping him chase after another girl when your heart is longing for him to come and say some sweet nice words, then don’t. You are in charge of your own happiness, so do what your heart tells you to.

Does confessing your feelings to him at this present moment help to relieve the burden in you? If the secret is threatening to dash out from your mouth each time you see him, and you need a million tonnes of energy to suck it back into your stomach, then why don’t you come clean?

It doesn’t mean there won’t be any friendship, unless you’re the one who decides it so. Otherwise, who knows maybe you might stand a chance to compete for his affection after all?

You never know, isn’t it?

You are going through a normal phase in your life. Enjoy the feeling of liking a guy, but if it is depressing you so much, then you’ve got to do something about it to nip it in the bud. If love happens, let it blossom. If it doesn’t, put it aside as soon as you can so that you can clear up that space for something even better to come along, and fill up that vacumn.

You can’t do that when that area is still taken up, can you?

Warmest wishes to you JS, and I hope you can keep me updated of your progress.

Love, Kloudiia

[tags]love advice, dating & relationship, high school love, crush for a guy, chasing after a girl, secret admirer, friendship[/tags]