If one fear to voice out the true feeling of the heart, I’m sorry to say that the relationship is build on the wrong ground and foundation already. A healthy relationship should not have any fear of voicing out the truth feeling within your heart.

Like Kloudiia said, compromising is only a temporary solution to a long term problem that can’t be solved in just few chats, heart to heart communications will be needed, and the many sessions too in order for both party to come to any form of concensous, agreements and understanding.

Now let me put on the other hat. Staying with in-law is not all that bad either. You may come from a small family group, but that does not mean you can gel into a large family group. Perhaps the lack of interaction and exchange of small talks that had led you felt that you can’t really get along with his family and extended family. It’s also a part of interpersonal skill and social interaction. It will take time to get used to it and to gel into the family bonding.

Staying with in-law does have it advantages too. Learning to deal with the differences can actually able to help you to be a better person. There are cases where by the daughter-in-law became such a good ‘friend’ with the mother-in-law, others mistaken them as mother and daughter!

The main issue now is which path that you wanted to take, and just remember one thing, do not regret over the decision made.