LOVE, Kloudiia

“Hi Kloudiia,

I’m 25 and I’ve never been in a relationship before. I’m always liking someone but not vice versa. Last year I got to know this guy from Friendster. Even though he don’t know me, he still allowed me to add him as a friend. Since then, we’ve kept in contact through msn and sms. We went out a few times too (is this considered as dating?). I like him. How can I let him know that and not ruin our friendship? I know that he treats me as a normal friend only. Should I carry on liking him or should I move on? I know you might have answered this type of questions many times already, but could you give me some advice please? Thanks!

And also I would like to know what the Love Coaching Program is all about? How do I go about taking up this program? Thanks!” - J

Dear J

Yes, I have answered this type of question many times, and this only means that you are now undergoing a stage where a lot of many other singles are experiencing or have once experienced before. I hope this makes you feel calmer, and more relaxed?

Why are you so worried that by letting him know how you feel towards him will cause this friendship to end? Have this sort of situation happen to you before, where after you revealed your liking for a guy, he turns and run away from you?

If it’s the former, then I believe you have allowed your own imagination to run too wild, in the wrong direction. You never know what is going to happen until you do it. So, don’t assume things will turn awry after a harmless and innocent confession, ok?

If it’s the latter, then you need to ask yourself the type of approach you used to confess your liking. Have you been too direct? Did you tell the person you like him or are you asking him if he wants to start a relationship with you?

You see, there is nothing wrong in letting the guy know how you feel. But whether or not to take your friendship to another level, is still entirely his choice. Let him know this clear and crisp. So that even if his choice is to remain as friends, you still have him in your contact list.

Whether or not you want to continue to like him, depends on how you want to live your life J. Do you want a life of experience, or you want a life of regrets? Do you want to look back on this phase in your life five years down the road and say “I’m glad I did this, I’m glad I have the courage to like a person because it has shown me how to love, it has given me the opportunity to realise how wonderful love can be”?

Or do you want to look back and say “How I wish I have done this, or that. How I wish I can turn back the clock. If only I had/could/done…”?

Keep your options open J. You can still go dating with other guys now, and explore yourself further to find out what type of person will eventually suit you best. So long as things aren’t totally confirmed yet, you still have the freedom to make as many friends as you like. Why don’t you make full use of such privilege, while you still have it?

As for my love coaching program, we are here to help you achieve your love goals. As a single, maybe your immediate goal is to find a partner, or to experience love. This is then what we can help you to work on, so that you will reach your destination in a much shorter period due to the methods we are using. Finding a love partner may entail many several factors, like looking at yourself, your current life, and see how it fits or misfit. Be prepared to put in time and effort to do this, if you are serious in finding happiness as an important goal in your life.

If you are, then we are more than ready and happy to be with you on this crucial milestone in your pursuit of happiness!

You may visit www.LuvLifeCoach.com for more details, and to sign up if you like.

All the best to you J.

Love, Kloudiia

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