LOVE, Kloudiia

“Kloudiia

I am very confused on my relationship can you give me some advise? Do you believe in Love Fate? Can a relationship be lasted if my foreign wife being banned in Singapore?” - J

Dear J

I’m not sure what you are asking here. Are you asking for my opinion on Love and Fate or on your relationship with your foreign wife who is banned from Singapore?

I guess maybe you are linking the two together. You may have met your wife and fallen in love with her through a series of events, which leads you to believe that fate brought you two in union.

But when she is being banned to enter and live in Singapore due to her citizenship, you began to feel that if you two are fated to be married, then why is fate tearing you two apart?

I’m not sure if the above description fits your scenario, but assuming it is, I’ve got this to say.

For me, fate may have played a part in your encounter with your wife. But the fact that you can’t be together is a matter of human intervention, which we call laws.

Instead of lamenting that fate is being cruel, or resigning yourself to fate’s arrangements and life’s destiny, why not do something else?

Have you went to the Immigration and appealed to them? Supposing you did that and failed, have you sought help from your MP? Who knows your MP could bring your case to the relevant authorities and speed up the process?

How many times have you appealed? Failing once doesn’t mean you will fail twice. Keep on appealing.

How about approaching those marriage agencies handling foreign brides? They should be able to give you some good advices on how to handle the situation as they are in this business.

What I meant to say is have you done whatever it takes to bring your wife to Singapore?

In the meantime, make arrangements to see your wife or communicate to each other as often as you can. You didn’t say where she’s from, so if travelling for a physical meeting can pose some problems in terms of time and financial commitments, then is it possible to call? Not too often, say once a week?

How often do you write letters to each other? Writing can be one of the cheapest way to stay in touch and let each other know how your life is and to give each other support and encouragement.

Finally, have you considered moving over to her country and settling there? Is your parents fine with this option if you were to do this as a last resort?

I’m not sure how the laws work, but I just hope that if you really love your wife then you must have faith and believe that you will be able to live your life with her. Sometimes, when all else fails, having faith may be able to keep you through while you pray for miracles to happen!

All the best to you and your wife.

Sincerely, Kloudiia

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