“Hi I’m P and I’m 19, saw an article on you online in the newpapers would like to say you’re really passionate and I truly admire you for that giving up a good paying job to help people. For sometime I’ve been questioning myself whether to look for help.
I’ve been in relationship for about a 10 months, my partner and I are very emotional people. I feel that I don’t feel really happy in this relationship in terms of my feelings cause I feel very confused about my feelings for her. Previously I kinda got dumped and I have a feeling that I’ve been hurt and I haven’t recovered from it sometimes. I still keep thinking about the previous girl, and I want my current relationship to last. I feel its very unfair and selfish of me and when sometimes when my partner asks if I love her alot I would answer ‘yes’ when I actually feel it’s like an empty word. I just feel I haven’t recovered emotionally to open up and love again.
I really don’t know what to do cause it’s been bothering me. I want to ask my friends for help but I don’t think that they’ll be able to give good advice. I even thought of going for counselling or seeing a psychologist.
Anyways thanks for reading my e-mail and thank for your help. Hope I’ve provided enough information for some advice. Thanks again. God bless!” – P
Hi P
The basis of having a good relationship is to let go of your excess baggage from all previous relationships. You have to be open to your current girlfriend of your feelings, discuss with your partner about both your likes and dislikes. Only through discussions, you will get to know each other better. Most of the people out there will choose to have a new relationship to replace the previous. This is a temporary method as it might only add on to your baggage as time goes by.
One way to let go of your excess baggage is to do this little self-realisation exercise. Take a pen and paper and jot down the names of all your previous partners. Under each name, write down what it is in them that attract you to start a relationship with them and what it is that ends this relationship. By doing this exercise, you’ll find out a pattern of why each of your relationship fails, what you have always been comparing against on all those relationships and how to improve on them.
It’s good that you are considering seeking help. This means you are willing to do something about this part of your life, so that you can find happiness and love once again.
For more details of how to let go of your excess baggage, you may like to sign up with us for our love coaching service or alternatively, you may like to seek professional counselling for advices. Our love coaching website is www.LuvLifeCoach.com.
We will be glad to assist you on this 
Love, Grace Tay
[tags]love advice, relationship advice, dating & relationship, healing, emotional baggage, failed relationship, getting over, letting go, girlfriend[/tags]
3 Responses
2007 Mar 28
hmm..seemed to me he is feeling unsure of himself and even the words he say…i think this is a normal trend or pattern..there r times we really like our partner…sometimes we really love our partner…sometimes we can even die for them..
being humans, we are subjected to the flow of feelings…sometimes ups and sometimes downs…it is important how we Make Sense of our feelings!!! :p
2007 Mar 28
That’s the problem when one have not yet fully recovered from the old relationship and get into a new one.
My advise is that when one just get out of a failed relationship, don’t rush into another one so soon. Take your time to recover your hurt feeling first, until you are OK and no longer linger around the old relationship, then you are ready for a new one, otherwise, the new one will only be a shadow of the old one as your heart will tends to make the new one like the old one.
2007 Mar 29
I admire those people who are passionate enough on what they are doing.. They do it not because of they want something in return..they just do it for love…:)
Kiss
Fendi