LOVE, Kloudiia

My girlfriend recently left for a place* (edited for privacy reasons) to be with her family friends and possibly hook up with her other boyfriend there.

How can I tell if she is thinking of me?” - J

Dear J

You sound extremely confused, and scared? If you are, ask yourself what are you truly afraid of? How much do you know about your girlfriend’s character? Is she someone who continues to flirt around even when she’s in a relationship with you? Has she been mentioning about this other boyfriend very frequently in front of you? Did she tell you explicitly she’s going to hook up with him when she’s there?

Now, I am confused too. What do you mean by “other boyfriend“? Is it her ex? I am assuming it is, otherwise you are just the other party in a 3-party relationship, one that you obviously are aware of.

What is your definition of “hooking up”? Could it be just a normal meeting over a meal to catch up? Maybe they still remained as friends even though they aren’t lovers any more.

If your girlfriend isn’t someone who treats relationship lightly and haven’t done anything to taint her track record, then you may need to look into yourself. Are you being too suspicious? If you are, could that be due your own insecurity? You need to work on this if that’s the case. Insecurity will bring about many problems and undue stress on a relationship because of all the suspicions and unfounded imaginations of the suspicious party.

If she is indeed such a “happening” character, then it’s either you have the bearing to endure all her extra interests besides you, or you can have the choice to end this totally. It really depends what you want out of this relationship and what expectations you have.

In general sense, unfaithfulness is a big taboo and no-no. Nobody will be able to accept such an extra-curricular activity.

But, barring all the other questions, if you want to know whether or not your girlfriend is thinking of you, here are a few guidelines you can use as a reference.

What Women Do When They Miss Their Men:

1. Contact. She will either text message, email or call you (if it’s not too expensive) just to tell you what she has been doing, how is her life there, when will she be contacting you again, and most importantly, just to tell you she miss you.

2. Response. If you miss her then contact her. If she responds fast enough (via text message) or excited to hear your voice, that means you ain’t been forgotten by your babe yet.

3. Telepathy. Actually, there really is nothing concrete that sets your mind that she is thinking of you. It’s all about trust. If you love her and trust her, and believes that she loves you too, than chances are she’ll be thinking of you every minute. For some couples who have a deep connection, they may actually have a sense that someone is missing them. If you don’t have such strong psychic waves, then just pretend that she is thinking of you to make yourself feel good.

Then when she’s back, ask her.  

Hope this helps, and please do go through those questions I popped to have a better idea of where you are versus your girlfriend in this relationship.

Sincerely, Kloudiia

P.S Ladies, what else do you do when you miss your boyfriend/husband during times when you are physically apart? I hope to hear from you too.

[tags]Long distance relationship,Holiday,Trust,Dating Relationships[/tags]