LOVE, Kloudiia

While searching for the marriage vows in the 1970s (saw it in ROM that day when I attended my god-brother’s marriage solemnisation ceremony and found it very interesting comparing to the current one. I’ll blog about it when I next lay my hand on a sample), I stumbled upon this article written by a lady called Marylaine Block: My Word’s Worth on Marriage Vows.

In it, she described how she felt when she attended her son’s wedding in Boston, and the path she went through in her own marriage. There are some sharings of her own experience and what it takes to manage one’s own marriage to make it lasting, and happy.

What strikes me most is this:

Any promise of eternal romance we thought was made to us fades with the reality of mortgage payments and dirty diapers and whining six-year-olds. There may still be plenty of romantic moments but if you’re in it for the long haul, the balance has to move more toward friendship, deep-seated trust, mutual reliance, and an understanding that “happily ever after” is not a state but a process

Happily ever after is not a state but a process. Like I’ve mentioned, love is also a process, one that takes lots of understanding, compromise and a forgiving heart. To enjoy an eternal bliss in your marriage, this is a crucial concept you have to appreciate, and to put into practice.  

Enjoy this fascinating article here.