LOVE, Kloudiia

“Why cant girls listen to us boys? Even when they did wrong we have to forgive her. Then they take us for granted.” – A

Arguments are inevitable in a relationship, would you agree A?  

But do you realise that it’s not the arguments that are causing the problem between you and your partner, but rather how you handle it? Secret #32: Arguing Without The Hurt shows you the art of argument, and lets you handle fights without hurting your relationship.

There are ways you can learn about to minimise having those negative feelings and to prevent arguments from escalating to a level which makes it hard to settle, and still remain loving after that.

At the same time, why would you want she to listen to you? In a healthy relationship, it’s strongly advisable for both parties to discuss things through and to arrive at decisions jointly. In my book, Secret #31: Joint Stakes In Your Relationship Bank talks about the importance of making decisions together, as a couple.  

Are you assuming that she will take you for granted when you forgive her even when she is in the wrong? Or has this happened before?

How well do you two communicate? It takes effort to have a loving and lasting relationship. It is not plug-and-play, and you have to make your intentions known to her and teach her to learn to appreciate you too.

 

“Does planetary alignment constitute a major factor to a loving and lasting relationship?” – B

What do you think B? Maybe it does, who knows?

Since that’s subject to the universe laws, stars and moon, let’s leave it to universe to decide shall we?

Maybe in the meantime, we can do something earthly like getting a copy of this book which is all about loving and lasting relationships? Ha ha ha

 

“For this coming Valentime’s day, what should I buy to get back my ex-girl friend that break off about 2 years ago.” – DG 

Hey DG, winning your ex-girlfriend’s heart is not by a gift alone. Even if it’s on Valentine’s Day. And please accept my apologies for this late reply, as I have to do this on a first-come-first-served basis for all the free advices I’m giving out. Thanks for your understanding.

Do you know what’s the reason you guys broke off? Have you been giving her what she wants from you? How well do you understand her?

If you can’t answer the above questions, even a 10-carat diamond will not bring her back to you DG.

Start working from the inside-out. If there are things that need to be changed, change first. Then show her your sincerity through your actions.

Provided she is not with any man now, that is. If she isn’t, then what are you waiting for?

The 69 Love Notes could show you what mistakes you have made in the past, and what you can do now to turn the table around. Good luck DG. Hope to hear good news from you soon!

 
“Hi Kloudiia,

Its heartening to know that you are passionate about what you do by making a living out of it! I have this question: Do you really believe in a lasting and loving relationship if a couple decides to marry simply because they have been together for a long time? I have 2 to 3 friends who are planning to get married simply because they have dated for a long time. I believe in chemistry between two people rather than just hanging out with each other till the point that they get so used to it and maybe missing out other opportunities at the same time. I feel a lasting and loving relationship takes time but it should evolve into a natural process rather than compromising each other which most people are doing. Don’t you think so?” – R

Hi R

I’m curious. How do you know your friends marry each other out of convenience, and not for the bond and connection they had developed, maintained and shared over the years? Just because there aren’t any more sparks now means there is no love?

You could be right in saying they decide to marry because they have no one else to choose, and since they have stuck with each other for so long, and see no reason for breaking up since no one has committed any major crimes or sin to warrant that. At the same time, you could be wrong too.

How do you define chemistry? What if I tell you that to me, chemistry is a process and it needs time to be developed, and will only get better and stronger as time passes, would you subscribe to my way of definition?

Isn’t getting used to each other a subset of chemistry too? When you get used to each other, it also means that one tiny little action, or even a sign from her and he will be able to know in his guts that she is thinking of a certain thought in her head or she is craving for that cup of cuppiccino. Can it be this R?

You know what? Maybe my book can dissolve your queries on this matter. Secret #67: Develop A Routine And Good Love Habits is talking about this.

Of course, I have to agree that there are some couples who get married for the sake of getting married. This is not recommendable in my opinion, but then again, who are we to judge? For they could be one of the couples who have the chance to celebrate their golden anniversary few decades down the road, right?

So, how to have a loving and lasting relationship? Loving relationships can be pretty easy to achieve, but to make them lasting? Now this is the challenging part, don’t you agree?

And this is what my book is all about.

 
“If he has only $1 in his pocket, how much of that $1 will he give me? Its not a materialistic queston. It’s a question of how much he is prepared to share with me.” – E

How much of that $1 would you like him to share with you before you are happy and convinced of his love for you E? Truth is, we all have our own needs, and definition of what constitutes as love.

Have you both sat down and share with each other your expectations towards each other, and the needs you like your partner to help you fulfill?

One of the secrets in my book Secret #22: How You Can Coach Your Partner will be able to tell you how you can find out those answers you like to know.

I have a special one-time introductory offer for my book now. Offer is valid for one more week, before I take it down. You can visit this site to download 2 secrets for free and order a copy now.

Cheers, Kloudiia

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