LOVE, Kloudiia

Singapore’s popular TV celebrity Christopher Lee was arrested for drink driving on 8 Oct 2006. When I first knew of this, I was pretty shocked really. Maybe I’m a woman, hence my first consideration was – how would his girlfriend, another popular TV celebrity Fann Wong react to such shocking news?

Call me a skeptic, or unsympathetic. Whatever negative labels you feel like hurling me, I’m still going to say my piece over here.

I believe that as adults, we should always be conscious of our own actions and behaviour. To commit a crime that is within our own control is really not that acceptable, especially when you have someone else to consider. Imagine if he were to be jailed for this, as he knocked down a motorist who was hospitalised, I wonder how the future will hold for him.

If I were Fann Wong, how would I react? Well, probably I’ll be quite mad at him for not being responsible for himself and our future. It’s really about taking control of our lives, isn’t it?

Which leads me to this topic about taking control. We should be in charge of not just our actions, but other areas as well.

Taking control of our emotions

I’m sure at some point in your life, there will be times when you felt really angry and upset over an event or with someone. How do you deal with that situation? Do you take control of your emotions and allow yourself to cool off before handling the issue, or do you allow yourself to lose control over those raging frustrations inside you and vent it out on an unsuspecting victim?

To be honest, I have vented out my anger on the person whom I am having the issue with. I also have taken the former approach and told myself to calm down before I speak to the person about it. Do I need to tell you which method works best? Let’s assume that both of them reached the same conclusion where we resolved the matter eventually, however I can declare confidently that when you allow yourself to lose control over your emotions, you will be at the losing end.

You feel guilty after that outlash, especially after you found out the facts. Truth is, sometimes we may be partially at fault too. But we were blinded by our furore to recognise it at that time. Not to mention the scar that has been left behind that needs more time and love to amend.

Taking control of our health

It was a totally unexpected one for me. I was on my way home in a cab last night when the taxi driver gave me a mini “lecture” about the importance of health. Maybe he knew I was planning to take the MRT (or subway if you aren’t a Singaporean), which was alright if not because I was sick. I still am, actually.

The whole situation was pretty funny really. As I sat beside him, there he was rambling on about taking care of our own health. If we don’t take care of our own health, then who will? Making money is no doubt important, but we should place health as the higher priority than that. Good health is the best wealth one can have, he told me.

Cannot agree more.

Taking control of our health means so much more than just eating a balanced and proper diet. It also means having enough exercise and keeping our stress level in check.

I remember this quote I heard before:

If you have no time to stay healthy, then you will have time to be sick.

Taking control of our relationship

When a relationship or marriage breaks down, it never is the sole responsibility of one party. Learning how to take control of those aspects that we have a handle on will effectively minimise such risk.

For example, learning how to effectively communicate with your loved ones will help to convey messages better and reduce the possibilities of misunderstandings and clashes. Acquire the relevant skills and knowledge of maintaining a relationship will also help in understanding your partner better and hence a more stable marriage.

Remember, this is never an easy task. On top of the efforts and perseverance you need, especially if your partner isn’t an easy one to handle to begin with, one of the biggest obstacle preventing us from taking control is time.

When couples get married and settle down, they tend to put all their focus and attention on their career. Meaning to say, they are more responsible towards their job than their family. This is sad, but this is also a fact of life.

Taking control means balancing out these two areas. If you want to have a stellar performace in your work, you put in more than the required amount of effort and time. Similarly, if you want to have a loving relationship, you need to also start taking control and giving what it takes.

Summarising all these up, it is about taking control and 100% responsibility in our lives, including consideration for our partners who will be part of our lives too.

[tags]Christopher Lee,Fann Wong,Take Control,Relationship,Health[/tags]