LOVE, Kloudiia

“You only think about yourself, always! You’d rather choose to spend your time during weekends playing soccer, instead of staying home. Weekend should be a family day, and yet all you care about is having fun outside all by yourself!” Kate says.

“What do you mean always? Since when did I forbid you to go out? You know you have the freedom to just go when you like it” retorts Chris.

“If I go out, then who’s going to take care of the kids?” Kate asks, fuming by now.

“Well, leave them to the maid!” Chris replies, shrugging his shoulder.

“Aren’t you the one who says not to leave the kids with the maid all the time? Don’t you need to be more responsible towards your children?” Kate continues.

… … and the “war” goes on.

Sounds familiar? Have you ever been in the shoes of Chris and Kate?

Well, the names are bogus. But the story sure isn’t. Such scenes don’t just happen in a marriage or romantic relationships, it can take place in any kind of relationships.

We all need our personal space. Then again, there are some couples who love to be with each other every other second, and the most amazing part is they never run out of things to chat about! Well, let’s just say they have found the other half of themselves, so they are one with each other.

But when you aren’t one of those real lucky ones, you may need to have a litte adjustment to your lifestyle when you are married, more so when the tikes come along.

Have a calendar or something. Fix a day in a week or month (depending on how frequent you want it to be) that belongs to your private time, and agree on it mutually with your partner. On that day and between that time, you shall be left alone to do what you want to do, with no interruptions, no babysitting and no chores.

Understand that your partner needs some space to breathe and to recharge. You need that too. So why not lend each other support to have a happier and more fulfilling relationship?

[tags]love and marriage, dating & relationships, personal space, individual, freedom, partner, spouse[/tags]