LOVE, Kloudiia

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Well indeed yes! If we can learn from people on the streets, friends from nowhere, why can’t we take a leaf from Singapore’s iconic representation – The Merlion?

The Merlion looks grand, awe-inspiring and simply magnificent. Standing in the middle of Singapore River, it continuously pours out wealth and prosperity for our country. Well ok, I like to liken water to wealth and prosperity. Hey I’m a Chinese, who can blame me for this?

 

How about a close shot? Have you been so up close and personal with this national icon?

 

Can you see the jet in the mouth? Yes, that’s the secret weapon hidden and cleverly camouflaged from public’s eyes. You can only see at such close distance. Now, doesn’t this remove some bits of mystery about this icon now that you have seen the inside mechanism?

Some will say yes, some say no. This is what the metaphor is about.

When you first date someone you are madly or mildly attracted to, you are only standing at a distance watching and observing your date. You don’t get to know about his/her inner world, not on the first date. Not even on the second or third date. It takes time to know a person well.

What you see is pleasing to your eyes, that’s why you have the date. But as you narrow the distance, you get to see this person in a closer view that not everyone is entitled to. Now, the attraction may just bend bothways, either towards the upslope or the downside.

Why is this so? How to ensure that attraction will shoot up when we allow someone to come into such close proximity with us, to discover more about our character and personality?

The answer is this – while putting your best foot forward on your first few dates, always be who you are! We will put on our best dress and suit for our first date. We dress to impress kill. We make that lasting impression and raise the temperature. We flirt, consciously or subconsciously, unabashedly or subtlely. These are perfectly fine, in fact it should be strongly encouraged. After all, dating should be fun.

But while doing your best to impress your date, do not lose your true self and personality. If you fake it just to score points, you will soon lose it when your date finds out the real you in no time. Wearing a mask can be very tiring, even if that is an ultra sexy charming mask that will bring you hordes of attention. The question is – can you handle that kind of attention? Do you really want such a persona?

So, if I zoom in and see that jet, I won’t be disappointed. Yes the mystery may be gone, but it has moved to a higher level of admiration and respect. For I know the Merlion has got a solid, strong and reliable jet and mechanism to spurt the water 24/7.

But what if I date someone who got me so hyped up to even idolising him, only to discover the genuine little guy hiding underneath that is just so ungodly? Well, I will run. And he can’t blame me really. I am shortchanged!

So the key to keeping your attraction is to stay true to yourself. Meaning, you flaunt your assets, and improve on the weaker areas. 

[tags]Attraction,First date,Dating,Staying true,The Merlion[/tags]