The “Worst” Thing To Tell A Woman
21 Aug 2009
Want to guess what that is?
Could it be “You look fat / You have put on weight”? Or “You don’t look good in this colour”?
No no no! The fact that someone commented on how you look only means that they have noticed you. You are not transparent!
Therefore, I think the worst thing to tell a woman is this: “Nobody notices you anyway!”
How sad that would be, if nobody notices us.
Everyone wish to be noticed, even more so, recognised for what we have done. I remember a scene in the movie What Women Want where the character Nick Marshall (Mel Gibson) is able to listen to what women are thinking in their heads after an accident. Because of this unique ability, Marshall finds out that there’s this girl in the office who has been diligently running errands for everyone, and yet, has been sorely missed out in their minds.
She grumbles to herself that nobody in the office notices her, and nobody thank her for doing her job. Her internal grouses are picked up by Marshall’s ears, and at that instant, he realises how the whole office, including him in the past, has been neglecting this lady.
Therefore, when she falls sick later, nobody misses her absence or even remember having such a colleague around, except for Marshall who visits her and shines a light into her otherwise dark and hopeless life.
Sometimes, all a person needs when he/she is down is a word of encouragement, a warm hug or a smile.
No, I think, at times, all a person need is to know that he is being noticed and recognised. That will make him/her feel important – and this is such a wonderful gift one can give to another.
2 Responses
2009 Sep 08
Kloudiia,
Regarding “The Worst Thing to Tell a Woman”, here’s an entertaining anecdote. I don’t know if it actually happened the way it’s described, but even if the story has been embellished it’s still wickedly funny, so I think that your readers may enjoy it.
After using an internet dating service without much success for what seemed like far too long, a frustrated (but perceptive) guy realized two things. First, many women posted profiles in which they were ambiguous (or even contradictory) about what they wanted from a man – “someone who is careful with my feelings and always tells the truth”, for example. The second thing the guy recognized was that he had no earthly idea how to respond to such a situation. So, he decided to use the direct approach – ask. A woman whom he found extremely attractive had written that she wanted a man who was not only “very strong”, but who also had a “soft, sensitive heart underneath – a real gentleman with a warm sense of humor, who is honest to fault”. In reply to that, our hero laboriously composed a very nice email that ended with the following paragraph:
“There is one more thing that piqued my curiosity. When you ask one of those quintessentially female questions (“Do you think I’ve gained weight?” or “Does this dress make me look fat?” or “Don’t you just love ….. whatever or whomever?” or “Do you ever fantasize about someone else when you’re with me?”), should a man 1) be “soft and sensitive” (big hug, no words), 2) show his “warm sense of humor” (by laughing until he cries, without actually answering the question) or 3) be “honest to fault? “Yes, you’ve gained a LOT of weight. Yes, it makes you look enormous. No, since you asked, the truth is that I loathe it (or them), and yes, I frequently fantasize about other women, usually one of your closest friends”.
If the legend is to be believed, the woman was so amused by his message that she not only replied, she eventually met the man and she continues to see him.
Chris Shaw
2009 Sep 09
Well Chris, apparently, some surveys of women have shown that “A sense of humour” tops the list of the traits they’re looking for in a guy! In this case, the guy in question does seem to have a wicked, rather than warm, sense of humour that just about hit the right chords with the right person! Good for both of them!