Oh we’re back to this topic again. Something that has been talked about, discussed and probably debated to death.
Are looks important? How much emphasis should one place on looks in their search for a partner? Why are men so superficial? Why must we spend so much time and money to look pretty and handsome when we should invest that in a book maybe? Does that mean if I’m ugly I’m doomed to remain single forever?
I’ve explained in detail why looks are important in my previous post on Attraction Quotient. So I’m not going to repeat myself here and bore you to tears.
But I really cannot let this factor pass without mentioning some other aspects of it, because good looks really turn a man on! Don’t you agree, you human from Mars?
Top 10 Men Turn-Ons #4: Killer Looks Kill
Killer looks do just that - they kill! A pretty face (ahem, plus gorgeous body) sends a man off to Planet Mercury and back with a wheeze, leaving him spinning and reeling from the excitement of pure visual delights.
That is a very hyped-up way of explaining the effect good looks have on men, I admit. I’m just cooking up the drama that’s all.
From this point on, I’m addressing all my female friends and readers of this site. Girls talk shall now begin. 
There’re only two types of women. It’s either she’s blessed with an angelic/sexy/pretty/sweet/charismatic/special face or she’s not. It’s not the end of the world if she ain’t a beauty. After all, pretty women account for less than 20% of the world’s population!
Alright, maybe more than 20%, or lesser, I wouldn’t know unless I do a worldwide survey. For now, maybe let’s settle for the 80/20 rule?
The fact is that the number of not-so-pretty women is more than twice as many as the pretty ones. So there is always hope for everyone, especially when she has the most important virtue in a woman – gentleness.
Men are visual.
Again, so cliche yet so true. But I’d like to change it slightly to this as I feel it better reflects the modern men and women in this era:
Men are visual. Women too, though not as much.
This means as much as there is hope, hope is not there for you if you don’t work for it! God helps those who help themselves.
Some of our then members from Two To Tango (our ex dating agency) used to tell me this:
“Kloudiia, why should I purposely dress up and put on make-up when I’m not such a person. I should be natural. I want a man to like me for who I am, not how I look”
Hmm, fair enough. Of course we all like to be accepted as who we are, to be loved despite of our weaknesses. No one is perfect. But there are those who do have some catch up to be done in their looks department who told me this:
“I just don’t find him attractive. I want a man who (member begins to fill in description of a “pleasant-looking” man according to her definition”
That’s why I say women too are visual! Because as much as we are hoping to attract men, we too get influenced and go starry-eyed when a hunk whizzed by.
If a woman is bothered by a man’s appearance, shouldn’t she accord her date the same amount of effort to want to look the best on a date, esepcially the first date?
That’s why we always remind our female clients to kindly put on some make-up, and to wear something that’s not too casual. Jeans is good if it’s matched with a more stunning top. Not good if it’s just any other t-shirt.
A man will suss you out in the first thirty seconds of meeting. They’ll do a quick glance over before zooming in specific details, usually the ones they are more attracted to or interested in, like eyes, neck, shoulder, legs, chest (stop that guys!), hips, tummy, lips, hair etc. Sounds sexist? A little bit, and I can fully understand if you don’t feel comfortable. I’m a woman too.
But as much as you hate to be scrutinised or sized up via how you look, that’s how reality works. Don’t we women do that too when we meet a guy for the first time? All of us do that, it’s called human instinct.
When a relationship develops, a man will love you for who you are. But before you can reach that stage, you need to first get his attention and desire to want to know you better.
So it really doesn’t matter if you don’t have Cameron Diaz or Fann Wong type of face. What really matters is you put in the effort to make yourself look as best as you can! That’s what I’m emphasising here and pleading you to take serious action on.
It also tells the guy one thing – that you really are excited about meeting him as much as he is to meet you! That’s why you bother to go the extent to dress up, all for him! Now, tell me which guy wouldn’t like to receive such special treatment from a girl?
If he’s attracted to you and like to date you for the second time, it doesn’t mean he’s only into your looks. There must be something else too to hook him and make him want to date you again. Do not belittle your own charm, for I’m sure there will be something in everyone that can make a person tick. It’s a matter of finding what that is.
Another cliche I’d like to present you. One that still holds true till now:
Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.
When you love each other, you will be the most handsome/prettiest person on Earth in the eyes of your partner. But before love can seep in, give it a chance to sow its seed, be fertilised and finally grow.
So ladies, it pays to pay more attention on how you look. Men are visual. You can’t change that. Some are very blatant about it, some more subtle. Some men are extremely superficial - if looks don’t pass their grades, the woman don’t deserve a second chance. You are not looking for this type of men. Instead, you are looking for someone who does appreciate your effort in taking good care of your appearance.
After all, if you can’t beat them, join them! And be better!
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