Ok, finally we are getting on par with Top 10 Women Turn-Ons series.
Dishing out the sixth episode in this 10-parter series, we continue our search for the answer to a man’s heart. Ok, maybe not the answer, but at least some good and useful clues for all the single women out there.
Top 10 Men Turn-Ons #6: Do I Look Like I Care?
The heading makes the woman out as someone with an attitude, doesn’t it? Well, that’s what a heading is for. To grab your attention and yet not giving you the real deal until you read on…
Fact is, this trait that turns men on is a far cry from having an attitude. If there is one, it will be this – careless. Again, slightly misleading. Alright, enough of the teasing. Let me go straight to the point.
Men are turned on by women who aren’t too bothered with themselves. How they look every minute and every second, how they control their laughter, how they flip their hair, how they excruciatingly cut the pizza into bite-sized pieces before artfully sending it into their mouths such that their lipstick is left virtually untouched, how they carefully deliver a well-crafted and rehearsed speech even when you are asking them a most simple question like “What would you like to eat” or “How’s your day been?”
This tip may look similar to Top 10 Men Turn-Ons #2, but in essence they are two different traits. Read on and you’ll see why.
Men like to be around women who are naturals. They are so comfortable in their own skin and take pride in who they are that they can’t really be bothered by how people view them.
For example, she leans back on the chair, throws her head and laughs heartily at his jokes without wincing. She doesn’t feel embarassed (or rather too painfully embarassed) to even laugh at herself when she made some boo-boos on certain things she said or with regards to the dining etiquette. She knows some other people may be staring at her, but she doesn’t give a hoot and no she doesn’t fidget nor become uneasy.
It’s like she’s so at ease with the surroundings, and most importantly, with her date.
And yes, she uses her fingers to pick up the slice of pizza and eat it just like that! With no cutlery, nothing! Guess what she did after that first bite? She licks her finger just to make sure no bit of cheese goes wasted. Now guys, there is something about a girl licking her fingers to clear up remaining bits of food, isn’t it? The action alone just makes her look so sexy. To men.
She is not pretentious. She is who she is with or without the presence of men in the group. Â
So it’s not about being fussy or perfectionist. It’s about this sense of carefree and slightly nonchalant attitude she has towards herself, life and the people around her that gives her this magnetic touch. This magnetism can be very alluring to a certain group of men.
Have you seen someone who looks really pretty but just doesn’t appear to be concerned about it? I mean, it’s not like she knows she is pretty and hence didn’t even bother to dress well. She still takes care of her appearance, but that’s just it! She doesn’t steal a glance at herself each and every time she walks pass a mirror, she doesn’t care if her hair would be messed up by the wind but rather she’s enjoying the breeze kissing her face. You know, that type of girl? It’s like she’s oblivous to her own beauty! Have you met her before?
I have. And I must say I too was attracted by her careless demeanour, no doubt I’m a woman. Â
Now that you have the mental image of such a woman, compare it with one who wipes or touches her mouth with every bite of the cake even though there really isn’t any cream that’s visible on her lips or edge of her mouth. I wonder how much attention she can be paying to the man if she’s so into how she looks throughout the entire meal. Hmm…
Once again, as with every advice that is given to every one on this planet, I have to repeat this to you – do it with moderation. Having a careless attitude can be attractive, but if you go to the extremes of not behaving like a lady (e.g propping your legs on the table and shaking them endlessly), don’t give a damn on your manners (e.g talking when your mouth is full) and too detached from your life that you are indifferent and disinterested in making any changes even if they could bring an improvement to you, then that’s carrying it too far. Needless to mention, that will be a turn-off instead.
The rule of the thumb is - he can literally see her enjoying herself and blending completely into the surroundings in most situations rather than being uptight and slightly pretentious, then she is the typical Miss Careless I’m talking about in this post.
She is very “in the moment” of things and life. Because she is like this, she also influences the man who is with her at that moment too.
One last thing, she doesn’t squint when you pop the question on her age.
[tags]attraction, men turn-ons, women, carefree, finger-licking[/tags]
One man’s meat is another man’s poison and so the saying goes. I like my woman sophisticated, thank you. How I hate to go for a dinner to have her behaving like she just lived the last 20 years with Tarzan.
Ha ha KS. Sophisticated women are elegant, poised and charming I must agree. You have good taste, don’t you?
At the same time, you too have to agree that being totally at ease with an environment and with the company doesn’t have to mean behaving like “she just lived the last 20 years with Tarzan”, right?
Like I said – do it with moderation. Nobody will be attracted to a woman who doesn’t even have the basic idea of manners.