Top 10 Women Turn-Ons #1
03 Dec 2006
Wooh! Turn-ons? Â
Men, if you are single and unattached, then you’ve gotta read this.
Men, if you think you are wonderful yet still single and unattached, you’ve really gotta read this.
I love men, and so do many millions of women out there! That’s why we would like you to turn us on so that we can literally jump all over you!
I’ve dated many men. While some of them were really very gentlemanly, there were many others who just don’t measure up to par. I enjoyed most of my dates, save for one or two who caught me looking at my watch every other 30 minutes before having to leave home earlier due to a sudden “headache”.
Ok, I’m sorry I have to resort to this, but it really was the best way out for both of us then, before I literally dozed off in front of him or I start losing my patience. (my threshold is high on this aspect fyi 
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Women don’t have to do this, if our dates could be better.
So how can they be better? They can ask around (hopefully they learn from the right teachers) or they can read, like now. Â
Guys, this really isn’t a series to kick your butt. I hope you will take it as a form of feedback or just use it as a guide to check back if you have been performing some of these not-so-desirable acts when you’re out on a date with a girl you really like and you don’t want to mess it up or be the cause of her headache.
You can definitely be the light and sun with the girl of your dreams. It’s just a matter of getting deeper into the minds of the fairer sex on what we think, and mostly, what we like.
Are you ready for this? If yes, then let’s go!
Top 10 Women Turn-Ons #1:Â Generous men.
Men, oh men! Pettiness should be a priviledge reserved for the ladies only! Though we have to admit too this isn’t a very attractive trait to possess. But hey, we can trade a bit of our pettiness off with some coquettishly demureness. Yes, we can pull it off, but for guys please don’t ever try doing that. It just, doesn’t fit.
Be urbane, and do not frown over trivialities like where to sit in a restaurant. Leave such little things to your girl, she’ll take care of it. It not only shows your gentlemanness, it also gives her the delight to be seated where she prefer.
But, if it wasn’t the first time you brought her there, it shows how sensitive you are by remembering the location she preferred previously.
Yes I know how complicating it can be at times. That’s why when you actually have such subtle differences towards us, it makes us feel special. That’s why it turns us on!
Be generous, and do not calculate over the cents. On your first date, offer to take the bill. Unless she insist on going dutch (you may have run into a feminist here), otherwise just buy her a nice lunch or dinner. If you like to ask if there are any on-going promotions with any credit cards, by all means do so. But just need to ask once, and that’s it.
Women do appreciate a man who know how to manage his finances well. That’s certainly a big plus point. But we don’t appreciate you showing us via a real-life demo by picking up all the cents left (if paying by cash) or asking the waiter if the iced water is free before you decide to order one for yourself. (a girlfriend told me this)
Neither do we appreciate you telling us to buy you a more expensive meal the next time when we thank you for the treat, before laughing away saying “I’m joking”. We may have a unique set of humour cells, so do forgive us for not being able to indulge in your entertainment.
Be magnanimous. If it doesn’t rip off half of your ego or pride, then just let it go quickly. Women find men like such to be very attractive as it indirectly means they are focused on the long-term vision and not be handicapped over short-term disputes.Â
Wow, such generosity in all senses truly revs up a woman’s heart and mind, body and soul. If you have such qualities, what are you still waiting for?
If you don’t, start practicing it to make it almost perfect. Then you’re on your way to becoming one of the most popular dudes in town. You can’t be single for long, not too long anyway.
P.S Stay on this series to find out what turns women on. Or if you’re impatient and want to be on the express lane, you can arrange for a personal love coaching with us. Find out more by dropping me an email here. Be pleasantly surprised with what you’ll get …
[tags]Single,Men,Dating,Courtship,Generous,Turn-ons[/tags]
5 Responses
2006 Dec 04
From experience, I observe that when women put up
“wish lists” in magazines, they tend to be a little bit removed from reality and practicality.
If a guy were to come with a list as well, most women would not be able to meet them all the time either. #1-#10 “dream list” for men would be something like: have big boobs, perky butt, yet skinny/slim waist and arms. Look good all the time, and wear sexy underwear. Laugh at all our jokes. Stroke our ego. Don’t be a needy bitch when your period comes. Don’t buy unnecessary things. Give us sex whenever we want it. Contribute to the household come instead of just spending it. Smell good all the time. Be funny. Make our friends jealous.
Why not just focus on whether the guy has good qualities: honest to you, warm to other, kind-hearted, funny.
2006 Dec 04
“But, if it wasn’t the first time you brought her there, it shows how sensitive you are by remembering the location she preferred previously.”
I don’t really agree with this actually. A person’s preference (both guys n gals) can change pretty fast. Sometimes there might be a reason for the change, sometimes there isn’t.
To be on the safe side, I usually let the gal enter the restaurant first so that she can choose the sit that she prefer.
2006 Dec 04
AW: Yes you’re right. Both genders have their own wish list, and their own dream guy and gal, that neither each gender can meet up to expectations. That’s why I’m writing this series to zoom in on perhaps the top 10 traits that turn a woman on.
I will be writing on what turns a man on too after this. So you may like to contribute some of your wish list to me so I can put it up too?
DK: You’re right too! Preferences may change, but if you were actually able to remember it and let her know “hey we were seating at the other end that time” actually makes the difference. See my point?
What you did is not just on the safe side. It’s a show of gentlemanness!
2006 Dec 04
Hi there!
This tip about generosity is true, though not much important in my opinion (it does not weight much into the global picture, but knowing it can’t hurt).
I usually don’t take girls to dinners on the first “dates”, I intead engange casual encounters to go have a coffee or go skating, but don’t call it “date”. If there’s a cheap bill (coffees for instance) I offer to pay it, but I usually say stuff like “this one is on me, the beers later are on you” (even if there isn’t going to be any beers later). But in my case, the majority of times the girls want to pay this first bill, and I end up paying the next one (the beers or drinks for instance, or the next coffee the following day).
My global view on this subject is that what you subcommunicate here depends a lot on your frame of intent. Let me explain: if you are showering her with a great dinner in the hopes of sleeping with her, then you’re supplicating and that is *very bad*. However, if you are doing it as a sign of appreciation for her and what she is bringing into your life, then she will value it as a sign of generosity. But beware of the supplicating frame.
My rule of thumb is: cheap (but still very interesting and fun) encounters before sleeping with the girl, and show generosity *after* sleeping with her. That way I show her I do it out of appreciation and not to get into her pants. Example: as of lately I invited a girl home and cooked a cute dinner, one prepared at home with stuff from the supermarket (10€ *tops*), and I ended up sleeping with her that night. The next night I took her to an awesome restaurant (100€, which is much more than OK for my current level of income). She was delighted since I showed her I appreciated her and I was not trying to get my way with her (obviously!, since I was already in a relationship with her).
Other people can do it different in a less payer-ish way (gosh I hate the term, I am just a man that likes to give ladies good experiences
) but the whole point is: be generous in a non-supplicative way. If she senses that you’re being generous just because you want to sleep with her, you’re toast (and for a good reason, since pretending is the wrong thing to do).
Rock Hard, Ride Free,
Wulfen
2006 Dec 12
[...] All the talk about generosity, being open-minded and giving compliments so far, I wonder how many men are putting it into practice and have gotten some feedback on these new strategies? (or secretly swearing under their breath in front of the pc while reading these posts. Shouldn’t be, right?
) [...]