LOVE, Kloudiia

Top 10 Women Turn-Ons #3: The Slickly Sweet 

“I can’t help but notice your smiling eyes. They look so lovely on you”

Ooh …

“How did you manage to look so great each time? There must be some secrets you’re hiding. Tell me!”

Aah …

Now, seriously. Who wouldn’t feel weak in the knees and cramp from a can’t-stop-smiling grin when you hear compliments like this? Oh I would …

Of course, if the man saying this looks every bit the pervert or flasher around your neighbourhood, the first thing you should is blow your whistle or call the police for verbal sexual harassement. But if he’s not, I’ll bet a hundred bucks if the lady won’t get excited and twinkled-eyed.

It not only gets her attention among a group of other predators, it also puts you on the A-list where you score as high as 90% of securing a first date with your fair lady!

Are we women airheads? Do we get bloated so easily that we lose all sense of discernment and logical analysis over a few words of praises?

This is where this post gets interesting. The answer is this – no we are not! In fact, our intution is so sharp that unless you are so polished or you just nabbed the Best Actor Award, chances of you lying your way through with fake admiration will only put us off and put you on the Z-list.

Having doubts? Test it out and you’ll know what I mean.

The gift of compliment needs to be sincere and relevant. That’s the first and foremost prerequisite for any form of flattery to work its way to the recipient’s heart.

With sincerity in place, next is to explore ways of paying a compliment that do more than raising one’s eyebrows.

Something that’s overtly obvious isn’t as colourful as something that’s personal. What really turns a woman on is a man praising us for something that’s not too visible to the naked eye. Something that needs more than a glance to be noticeable.

Like our intelligence and wit, the little accessory we pinned on our dress, the new shoe we’re wearing, the nice sweet sexy fragrance we’re emanating, our personality, the energy in our laughter and the way we speak etc.

How to really say it that makes women go starry-eyed? Make it personal, for the praiser and the praisee. Tell her how her sparkling eyes makes you feel alive, how her bubbling laughter makes you feel excited about life, how her knowledge draws you to have her company.  

For more personal relationships, compliment her on how her scent makes you feel dizzy with pleasure, how her glossy hair makes you feel like gliding your fingers through, how her little finger action makes you feel like wanting to hug her tightly, how her passion towards life makes you feel motivated and driven too.

If you simply are clueless when it comes to praising, then you’d be much better off to stay neutral than to say the opposite. Start criticising your date, or shooting unsolicited advice on her dressing, the way she eat, speak and laugh in a grievously-misconcieved hope that you are doing her a favour, I’m so sorry to say that would be your first, and last date ever. Same for the girls. 

Are there still such men around Kloudiia? Yes there are, of course! But I can almost guarantee they are going into extinction because it’s either they learn from the hard way with a rude awakening and change their ideas of what a “good” date is, or they’ll have to retreat into their caves, out of existence in the dating field.

And guess what? I’m pretty optimistic they’ll not disappear from the dating scene, for men like to be winners! Which means they’ll want to do something to improve areas they’re lacking to create a good impression on the opposite sex and win them over.

So ladies, aren’t you lucky that the men are indeed working on ways to attract and impress you? What should we do then?

Encourage and appreciate.

Am I right, guys? Let’s hear from you!

[tags]Gift of compliment, Compliment, Dating, Attraction, Communication[/tags]