LOVE, Kloudiia

So you don’t have a date, yet? Well, fret not for there are still two weeks away to the V Day.  

But what if V Day is finally here and you’re still dateless? How can you handle that? 

I have a way…

The first question that you should not beasking yourself is am I so unattractive? But rather this:

What’s the big deal?

Stay at home, watch TV, read a good book, listen to the radio, chat with friends on the forum, communicate with listen to your parents’ stories (I’m sure they have lots to tell you but never had the chance to) etc.

There are so many things you can do on 14 February than to sit there and moan over not having a date!

I can say this loud and clear because I’ve spent countless Valentine’s Day without a date! Did I die? No, I didn’t.

Did I become uglier because of that? No, I didn’t.

Did I feel depressed, sad and hopeless that nobody loves me and ever will? No, no, no!

You can say “Nah, it’s easy for you to say this since that’s over and you now have someone to spend V Day with.”

To which I’ll answer “It’s easy to say because it’s as easy as you want it to be. What is the thing about measuring your attractiveness, or worse, a person’s self-worth by how many bouquets of flowers you got, how many boxes of chocolates you received or how many dates you were asked out on Valentine’s Day?”

Why am I dateless then?

Mainly two reasons which are

1. Don’t want to give the guy a wrong impression that he has chance when I knew he doesn’t. So I said “No” even if he’s the only guy asking me on a date anyway
2. Nobody ask me out, simple

If you can’t bear staying at home while the others are basking in love, then do something about it!

Organise an all-girls or guys party! Go and enjoy yourself all the same. I know many people have said this – there are no rules set that Valentine’s Day is reserved solely for romantic loves only. But how many have actually done it?

Maybe they’re afraid of being sneered at. That only losers organise their own parties because they aren’t invited to one. Worse, it’s what? A same-sex party? Did I hear it wrongly?

If this is bothering you, then my take is this – I won’t be bothered with it. No, not even a 1% chance that I’ll let opinions like these bring me down and dampen my spirit to have fun and let my hair down.

Why are you choosing to give power to some other people who have no business in your life to control how you should be feeling? By letting their words affect you to such an extent that make you feel bad about yourself, you are giving them immense power to run you down.

Why not choose to do otherwise? Take that power back from them and show them what it means to be truly empowered.

You know, someone who is in control of his/her own life and live it the way he/she wants it to be exudes charm. It makes them very attractive, because not everyone has the guts to do that. Too many people fall into the same trap. That’s why they can’t get out of the rat race.

Girls share a special friendship too. Not in that manner you are thinking of, if you happen to be moving offtrack.

Hey I made cards and gave them to my girl friends on V Day during my secondary school days. I bought flowers for my mom. I know men don’t do that, but there are surely other things men indulge in which give them the pleasures too, right?

But if being dateless on this day really bugs you to hell and you can’t sleep over it for the next two weeks, then why not make this a motivating factor for you to do something so that a date will come knocking your way next year? (Hint: advertising for my next post)

If something is painful enough for you to take action, then why not capitalise on it? It’d be a waste not to use that value to drive you to achieve your goals, including getting hitched. 

So, what’s the worst thing to do when you don’t have a date on Valentine’s Day?

I’m not sure if these are the worst, but I’d strongly recommend you not to do any of this, if you are still looking forward to a high chance of falling in love and finding the right person.

1. Sitting in one corner and moaning. Or worse, sulking
2. Green with envy with your colleagues’ presents and flowers, secretly plotting to destroy them when she next visits the toilet (I know this sounds exaggerated, but well)
3. Complaining about all the couples on the street. Remember, if you want to complain, be sure that you won’t be one of them in time to come. Otherwise, the wise thing to do is just remain silent. Silence is golden, you know?
4. Wondering if something is wrong with you that you are alone. If you have been wondering this for too many years and still can’t find the answer, then maybe there really is. So, the golden rule is this – when in doubt, ask! Just make sure you ask the right person for advice.
5. Believe that nobody loves you, or ever will. Stick to this belief, and trust me, it will come true. But if you choose to believe otherwise, the opposite may also happen, faster than you can imagine.

Instead, do these! 

1. Go shopping. Buy yourself a gift. Something you have eyed on at least two months ago. Ok, this is not entirely retail therapy. but a way of showing love for yourself. What’s stopping you from taking this day to love the most important person in your life? If you don’t know who he/she is, ask yourself now.
2. It’s the quality that matters. You don’t need so many people asking you out on this day. If he/she is the right one, just one will do. 
3. If you really want to have a date on Valentine’s Day, then watch out for my next post - Valentine’s Day Specials: 10 Tips & Tricks To Ace That Date!

Okay, now get up from that chair, do a stretch and walk to the nearest mirror. Then, look lovingly into the eyes of the person staring back at you, and say this out to yourself “Something good is coming soon”.

Next, smile.

You know what? Something good is coming your way soon!

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