LOVE, Kloudiia

Gone are the days when women are the only ones who are clingy, needy and dependent. As we move into the era where women are equally capable of earning their own keep, aren’t afraid to say her piece and air her opinions and treasure her freedom.

Therefore, as women climb their way up the social ladder while still maintaining their domestic positions, a certain group of men may begin to feel the pressure and start to react negatively.

Short of the woman being responsible for the man’s behaviour due to her flirtatious nature, Mr Needy Man needs to work on himself if he ever hopes to have a happy and lasting relationship.

Who is Mr Needy Man? How do you know if a man is needy?

When he displays characteristics or behaviour like:

1. constantly needing assurance from her;
2. regularly checking on her movements;
3. can’t take care of himself;
4. blaming her for his unhappiness / emotional blackmailing her;
5. easily jealous and suspicious of she wanting to break up or having an affair.

There could be more, and these are the more obvious ones that one can use to check against to detect if the man is needy or not. Like I said, unless she has been behaving unappropriately, she shouldn’t take it upon her to solve his insecurity.

Rather, he should seek help to find out the cause of why he is so insecure and work on building up his self-esteem, instead of pointing the finger at her.

And ladies, if you are trapped in such a relationship, please do not delay in asking your partner to seek help. Go to a counsellor  or coach if need be to sort things out within himself. If he refuses to take any action and is waiting for you to do something about yourself instead, then perhaps you need to consider if you are indeed in a relationship, or should you move on. 

[tags]insecurity, dating & relationship, boyfriend, partner, needy,  unhealthy relationship, emotional blackmail[/tags]