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My fifth gift for you – The Gift Of A Compliment.

Find something nice to say to someone. Make it a habit in you to tell the person about it. Doing this not only makes that person feel good, it makes you attractive as well.

Yes, what I am saying is this – paying compliments will increase your attraction level.

Receiving compliments with graciousness also makes you attractive too. It works both ways.

When you are praising someone, it means you have paid attention to him/her such that you can notice that uniqueness which gained your admiration. People love this kind of attention. It need not be just solely on looks, it can be anything they say or do which makes them stand out in your eyes. Tell them specifically that, and see their eyes light up.

The next time you pay someone a compliment, notice if you are smiling too. You won’t if that compliment isn’t a sincere one. You will if it truly comes from your heart. You have already left a deeper impression on this person you have complimented than the rest who didn’t. You have made him/her happier.

This genuine quality in you to make that effort to go the way out to notice the uniqueness of others and complimenting them makes you very attractive. It also makes you happier too. 

It forces you to view people and life differently. Instead of magnifying their negative traits, you choose to only focus on the positive ones. In so doing, you will begin to discover the richness in people and life in mutli-faceted dimensions. No longer will your sky remain grey if it used to be. It wll be one with the most beautiful rainbow. 

So start a new habit to compliment someone everyday. See the difference you made to that person and yourself.

What about reciprocation? Is there a need to always reciprocate with another compliment to the giver? My answer is – it depends. Some compliments are best received with a simple “Thank you”. It tells the giver that you truly appreciate their kind words and you are thankful for their effort in telling you.

A typical type of compliment where there is no need to reciprocate is when you are praised for a job well done, a report well written or a clever comment made by your boss, professor or an expert. Those compliments serve to empower you, so use it wisely. Bask in the joy for a few moments, then use that as a motivating force for further growth.

The worst form of receiving a compliment is to reply with a negative comment or brush it off. If you feel shy receiving a compliment, it doesn’t kill to blush and still say “Thank you.” But it does kill you and the giver when you totally discount it off with words like “That’s my job” or “No way am I looking good. Have you any idea how much stress I was under lately?” or “Are you kidding? I must be the worst speaker ever!” Gladys Edmunds shared her unhappy experiences with unappreciative receivers when she complimented them in USA TODAY. To read this interesting article, click here.

Doing this long enough and people will want to run away from you as they find your negativity too strong and demoralising. It makes them embarassed to even say something nice about you. This is definitely a no-no in the world of attraction. It says something about your confidence too. You may take this as a symptom to work on some underlying issues with yourself.

Then there are the compliments you make to your loved one. Praise them for every little thing you wish to. Even if it really is no big deal to others, make it a big deal for you and your partner. When you give, give with love. When you receive, receive the love and reciprocate. Keep exchanging loving words and compliments between each other to nourish your souls and hearts.

Give compliments in the form of a written note, through words plus some doses of hugs and kisses to make it more affectionate. Remember to sign off your note with love and XXOO!

My Fifth Gift For You – The Gift Of A Compliment.

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